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01 May 2023, 9:19 am
Nothing I said is transphobic in the least bit. And I am not transphobic. I have several trans friends and acquaintances as well as trans friends with benefits. Def not transphobic here in the least bit.
Some ppl think if you have a trans friend it means you are transphobic.
I kid you not.
That’s just stupid.
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01 May 2023, 10:18 am
THAT was my point.
This might be "the Truth™" but it certainly isn't true.
The Truth is: You can't speak for ALL ppl.
I don't recall ever suggesting that I do.
01 May 2023, 8:47 pm
Nothing I said is transphobic in the least bit. And I am not transphobic. I have several trans friends and acquaintances as well as trans friends with benefits. Def not transphobic here in the least bit.
Some ppl think if you have a trans friend it means you are transphobic.
I kid you not.
That’s just stupid.
Oh, lordy!
Again we agree on something.
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01 May 2023, 9:00 pm
Nothing I said is transphobic in the least bit. And I am not transphobic. I have several trans friends and acquaintances as well as trans friends with benefits. Def not transphobic here in the least bit.
Some ppl think if you have a trans friend it means you are transphobic.
I kid you not.
That’s just stupid.
It sounds like a misunderstanding of how people dismiss the I have x friends excuse when accused of bigotry.
Having x friends doesn't make one a bigot, but hiding behind them when accused of bigotry deserves to be called out.
01 May 2023, 10:04 pm
Nothing I said is transphobic in the least bit. And I am not transphobic. I have several trans friends and acquaintances as well as trans friends with benefits. Def not transphobic here in the least bit.
Some ppl think if you have a trans friend it means you are transphobic.
I kid you not.
That’s just stupid.
It sounds like a misunderstanding of how people dismiss the I have x friends excuse when accused of bigotry.
Having x friends doesn't make one a bigot, but hiding behind them when accused of bigotry deserves to be called out.
But what if they aren't hiding behind the gay friend, and the other person is simply misrepresenting them?
I have been accused of being homophobic despite having a gay friend since we were children.
Perhaps I cultivated this friendship 55 years ago only to use it as a defence against being accused now.
I'm smart, but I don't think I am THAT smart.
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01 May 2023, 10:25 pm
Nothing I said is transphobic in the least bit. And I am not transphobic. I have several trans friends and acquaintances as well as trans friends with benefits. Def not transphobic here in the least bit.
Some ppl think if you have a trans friend it means you are transphobic.
I kid you not.
That’s just stupid.
It sounds like a misunderstanding of how people dismiss the I have x friends excuse when accused of bigotry.
Having x friends doesn't make one a bigot, but hiding behind them when accused of bigotry deserves to be called out.
But what if they aren't hiding behind the gay friend, and the other person is simply misrepresenting them?
I have been accused of being homophobic despite having a gay friend since we were children.
Perhaps I cultivated this friendship 55 years ago only to use it as a defence against being accused now.
I'm smart, but I don't think I am THAT smart.
I don't/can't claim to speak about your specific situation, but it's not uncommon for people to use I have an x friend to dismiss criticism immediately after saying something bigoted about the group said friend is a member of.
Sometimes the person who places themselves in that situation will disagree about the nature of their comment, and they're entitled to that, but others are entitled to evaluate things differently. The person in that situation will likely insist they're being misrepresented, but they might well be misrepresenting the situation themselves.
But it even happens when the comment was recorded, allowing anyone to form an opinion. A portion of people will use hilarious pretzel logic to avoid having to admit something they said was problematic. People who identify as liberals tend to be especially bad for that sort of behaviour when they're called out.
It's often a side-dish to I'm not y, but... where y can be whatever form of bigotry applies.
01 May 2023, 11:22 pm
But what if they aren't hiding behind the gay friend, and the other person is simply misrepresenting them?
I have been accused of being homophobic despite having a gay friend since we were children.
Perhaps I cultivated this friendship 55 years ago only to use it as a defence against being accused now.
I'm smart, but I don't think I am THAT smart.
I don't/can't claim to speak about your specific situation, but it's not uncommon for people to use I have an x friend to dismiss criticism immediately after saying something bigoted about the group said friend is a member of.
I'm aware of that.
As I said, the problem occurs when the accuser misrepresents the situation and refuses to accept The Truth.
02 May 2023, 7:54 am
People who say that a person only became a mod because he is on the political Left and is part of the LGBT community tend to give other people the distinct impression that they probably have at least some homophobia even if they claim to have had a gay friend. According to my records, the friendship ended because the gay man had "irrational beliefs."
When those same individuals, who shall remain nameless, complain that trans members are at the top of the food-chain on WP while staunchly supporting those who make anti-trans comments periodically, they tend to appear transphobic (and delusional but that’s a separate issue).
Those individuals also suggest that being LGBT is political which is problematic as well. Putting all the pieces of the puzzle together, the picture is pretty klear.
This is probably the biggest misrepresentation I’ve seen yet on WP:
I kid you not.
02 May 2023, 8:51 am
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02 May 2023, 10:16 am
Lol, just a metaphor this time around. It'd be a bigger story if she gave him a bodyslam.
02 May 2023, 7:23 pm
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04 May 2023, 2:22 am
Uncle Joe is a little out of touch with reality.
It happens with a lot of ppl his age.
I am not nearly as old as "Sleepy Joe", but I constantly keep an eye on any sign of kreeping dementia.
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04 May 2023, 2:31 am
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04 May 2023, 9:21 am
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