I dont get it. Why is it a problem, that a teenager acts normal and wants sex, and why should he get medical abused, just because women normally want relationships with men that have higerh social status. How should that be related and why should boys get medicinal abused with drugs, because many women are interested in men with higehr social status?
I dont want to offend anyone, i really just dont get it. When I was a teenager i also had a very strong sexual interest, but i dont see how anyone got hurted because of that? And why should i get drugged and my sexual drive lobotomized by a doctor?
Ok, if you run around raping every cat you see because you are so horny, i understand the problem. But running around and asking people if they like to have sex with you....as far as i can tell from my experiences from going out on Saturday, thats whats that "going out" thing is all about for NTs. They just dont say so. ^^
Lonermutant wrote:
I think that girls with Asperger are more mature, so they have a chance of having a boyfriend at age 15 like nt girls, while boys with Asperger don't reach maturity until they are past 20. Therefor they never learn the social rules that can get them a girlfriend and therefor relationships for most men with Asperger are about quick sexual gratification only.
What use do i have of having a boyfriend with 15, if i only have misadvantages of it. So I did, as my classmates did because i was horny, and so i copied my classfriends making a relationship with a boy, so i was "socially allowed" to have sex. So the advantage of that relationship was sex, the misadvantage of the relationship was having an relationship, and the expectations of me running around, wanting to spend every second I have with my boyfriend, loving to phone from one second to the other, starting to paint my face and all that s**t... I never wanted to have more social contact then 1-2 days a week, i hated telephoning since i was born and the last thing on earth i was interested was wasting my time i need to relax, to do such sh***y things like painting myself and masking myself and all that other s**t to do something i also dont wanna do, wasting my time for meeting a horde of NT teenagers to spend the evening with them, hiding how bored I am and pushing down my intentions to leave the situations because of getting me more and more tired.
After my first tries of copying this NT relationship system i ended it after having an complete weird NT boyfriend who i couldnt understand at all and who gave me the rest, and decided that I have absolutely no benefit from that relationship stuff and have been totally happy with normal one night stands or "having fun" with normal friends for years, and never regreted this desicion. So "by accident" i met a man years after that, who pushed me to try it again and i am very happy about it now, but it doesnt change that accepting, that i only wanted to have sex as a teenager, was just the right thing to do.
While my body was growing up my "social mind" was still some years earlier. So my body wanted to have sex, and my mind wanted to play instead wasting my time for relations ship stuff. I was not dumb, but if you ask an 8 year old genius if he wants to spend the evening dating a girl or playing Mario Cart, Mario Cart will win and dating a girl is boring. The wish to meet girls will come from himself someday, but as long as its not there, the best thing you can do is accept it. So i accepted, that I have no need in meeting boys for social causes, but still had physical needs. So if there was a problem with that, i had to think about it, how to solve it. But none of the "affected persons i shared temporarily my sexual interests" seemed to be unhappy, i was not unhappy. Just some non affected person were unhappy about it. So as far as they forced themself to be affected by my behavior, why should I care about problems people want to create themselfs? If they are disturbed, by disturbing themself about my behaviour they are free to stop disturbing themself about things they are not affected with. If they want to disturb themself, its a free land, but i do not take responsibility for something people to do themselfs.