My approach to medicine is that I am a resource for the patient's use. I bring my education, my experience and my skill to the relationship, but it is the patient, ultimately, who makes the decisions.
As I said, psychiatry is challenged, but even in this field, patients can be encouraged to take control of their own care. We obviously must be mindful of an individual patient's capacity to make meaningful, informed decisions. There are, after all, some people who, with the best will in the world, will never be able to take responsible decisions for themselves.
My preferred approach (and I emphasize, I'm not a psychiatrist) would be to bring the patient to an awareness of her own condition, the limitations that it places upon her and the options that she has for going forward. But this is my 21st century view of things, and we are half a century away from this patient-doctor relationship. In the 1950's the physician gave the orders and the patient disobeyed at her peril.
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--James