protest_the_hero wrote:
Don't tell me you have problems controlling yourself.
Not at all. I just think that girls can, and do, find more lucrative friendships elsewhere. Whether you are a guy or a girl, there are certain social and emotional benefits or "stakes" that keep a friendship going. I think there's a limited amount that a girl can take from an opposite-sex friendship before she gets sick of it unless there's some sort of extended roots into an extended social network.
I tried the whole idea that "it's just a friendship, regardless of whether you are friends with a guy or a girl" but I don't think other people think like that. There's always some sort of tension, want it or not. I realized this right as what I assumed was a friendship with one girl quickly changed course to a full-blown relationship, as the subtle cues that it was more than a friendship completely passed me by. Ironically, I know of quite a few counterexamples to this claim.