When did you start a sexual relationship?

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I completely agree with you, Zeek. And I think society really pressures us teenagers to make sex. My classmates made me think that I had to have a girlfriend just because every other boy had one. They only wanted to see the nerd saying those romantic things unsuccesfully for a girl.

Due to my failures on trying to have a romantic relationship, I have no urge for this moment.

Just checking in; my thanks to all of you for the maturity shown thus far in the discussion. Well done.


M.

I went to third base with a girlfriend at the age of fourteen (we were in the same sleeping back, and the bac rub turned to other types of rubbing).

What's "third bese"? I've heard bases being referred to in this context a countless number of times, but I still have no idea what the hell it means...

1st Base. Kissing/ Hugging/ Holding Hands
2nd Base. Above the waist touching/under the shirt
3rd Base. Below the waist touching, sometimes over clothes.
4th Base. I hope you can guess.

I see now, thanks

I have three views on Sex at the moment.

First View:

In most cases, I absolutely hate the idea. I hear of people boasting about sex every day, yet I am repulsed at the idea. If I see anything with any form of explicit content in, I always look away. I complain about such things afterwards and make it well known to my friends that I am not that type of lovey-dovey person that likes these things. If people flirt, I say "No" and promptly avoid them. This is, quite basically, my School Mindset.

Second View:



Agreed. However, I have never been in any sort of relationship. I'd like to ask, ofcourse, but cannot find the words nor the means to do so - they won't ask me, and there's at least a 90% chance they'd say "No".Even then, I'm often called "The Love Guru" by a few friends because I know how to non-sexually gain a person's favour via dating (And by that, I mean the common advice of chocolates and flowers while wearing one of those old-fashioned suits. Nothing original or new).

That was slightly off-topic. Anyway, back to this view. This is pretty much my true ideas on the matter. With the likes of Marriage, Divorce and relationships I have a Catholic's mindset more-or-less, and my opinion is that when you have done such acts then you should never do so with another person. Therefore, at the very least I would do it when married. However, odds are I will get married then spend a year or so without doing anything so I know I can trust the person.

Third View is, pretty much, the opposite of the first view. We all have times when we think "What would it actually be like to have sex?". Heck, I have these times, and it's mostly curiosity and hormones more than anything that combine and make you think of it. Ofcourse, for me, it has never led to anything whatsoever. Yet, during these times, I tend to read non-sexual things about sexual orientation on the internet and compare it to my own life. For example, they say that at the age of 5-7 children should want to play games like "Doctor" to find out about their body. I never did. they say that at 10-12 they should most likely be having their first relationship with their preferred gender. I never did. I honestly can't really think of anything I have done involving sexuality other than going through puberty (Which I still am), really.

Yes, people who have lost their virginity are usually given a higher social position. I believe there's a phrase for never having kissed anyone either. I don't remember it though.

I have't had sex either though, I don't really have all that big an interest in having it.

I was 20 my first time, it was in this gay club toilet with this guy i'd just met. i was so eager to do it and know what it was like, i was ecstatic afterward that i'd managed to. it was a nice experience.

Got laid at 16. I would hit on all the girls in my ECE classes while all the other guys would stay quite and shy. I must have stood out in some way. I wasnt even that funny or interesting.

I have never had a sexual relationship, or even a real-life romantic relationship except two online dates that I didn't meet RL.

I plan on having a sexual relationship after I have sexual re-assignment surgery and have a purely romantic one (no sexual activity) until then(hopefully)

Never gotten laid. I'm waiting until I'm in a long term relationship.

I'm 18 and still a virgin. I'm not saving myself or anything, don't get me wrong. I'd actually love to get laid, I just don't see it happening anytime soon.

I'm fourteen and the farthest I've gotten is second base. My boyfriend and I always have condoms, though. If something happens, we at least don't want to get pregnant or diseases. I'm not opposed to the idea and neither of our religious beliefs get in the way, so it's very possible we could have sex. It's just a matter of timing and comfort level. I know he's not a virgin.

When I was 15 but we broke up not long after. I went out with other people (no sex) and then ended up back with the original guy and we were together for 11 years. I've always felt I could take or leave sex, it's no big deal. He ended up quite abusive and I felt that it was just something that was done and kinda used and not there sometimes, if that makes sense? I feel better about it with my gf but atill don't really see what all the fuss is about to be honest

My friend started hers at 13, not kidding, she was out with her boyfriend, her friends boyfriend and her friend. They all went down to the fields after drinking a lot and they were all messing around doing crazy stuff. They got back to the guys house and her friend and boyfriend fell asleep and the boy and her were still awake. For some reason they started kissing and it just, happened. Her boyfriend found out and broke up with her, im glad im not it that position.

FYI , where i live its considered not out of the norm for stuff like this to happen