gay? Bi? Pan?

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I'm not bi, but I'm not entirely straight either. Sort of a not fussy straight that has the odd girl crush here and there.
And I haven't had a relationship with either gender, except for "boyfriends" that I had for a few days when I was a kid.

I'm bi, i have had several crushes on boys, but the difference between my sexuality towards boys is that i do not get sexual attraction towards them, i just fall in love and appreaciate psysical contact from them.

I'm bi, currently madly in love with a girl and for those that don't know pansexual is like bisexual only you find transexuals attractive as well.

I'm pan and trans (female to male), and I've been single for a while (though I did trade numbers with a very attractive girl at a bar recently and we're trying to set up a coffee date). I'm mostly attracted to masculine identified/presenting female bodied people (butches, female bodied genderqueers, ftms, etc) but have been and could see myself being attracted to any gender.

I'm pan, male (sex), flexible gender (varies between male and intergender, with most of the time closer to the later) and in relationships, I am more concerned with how the stuff between the ears interacts than the stuff between the legs.
If I had to pick someone by looks, I generally am attracted to androgynous people

I am a gay male. I came to that conclusion around age 16. For two years prior to that, I declared myself as being bisexual, until I came to the realization that I really didn't have any lascivious feelings toward females.

As for my gender identity, I like to think of myself as gender-neutral, although I still wear masculine clothes. There's hardly anything masculine about me aside from that.

I am straight. I only like males for their physical appearance.

I really don't know.

For the longest time I've thought that I was straight.... until I stopped suppressing the images in my head recently (visual thinker). The suicidal ideation disappeared almost overnight (though I'm still somewhat depressed).

As for figuring it out this late (I'm 19 this December), I'd say that it'd be a bit of PTSD from high school.

To be honest I don't really know if I get crushes on people the normal way, I feel attracted to others but I don't know if it's 'sexual' or how to really tell the difference between a) a crush b) wanting to be/look like them c) just being interested in their personality/appearance in some way. I'd say pan though, if anything. I tend to like people who don't completely fit the gender stereotype.. ie pretty androgynous boys, and girls who look like them. :3

I'm the same way for all that (like androgynous girls better though). I'll add that I often think I have a crush on someone for a bit, then later I'll realise I don't and probably never had a crush on them. I can't really say whether I've ever had a crush (probably not). Generally when it happens the person looks distinctive and is interesting. It's pretty weird.

Anyway I love how people here also seem familiar with this kind of stuff, though it might be out of necessity.

I like this quote. It suits me well.

Same here. In my eyes, being a student (most notably, high-school/Secondary School) probably makes it far worse - I seem to convince myself of people making flirtatious gestures towards me, fail to do anything due to lack of confidence (as well as self-esteem due to my quirks - thinking "Why would anyone ever desire to court/date/go out with me? Even more so, why would they take the risk of coming out as gay to do so?") until, eventually, the romantic gestures just stop... Only then do you realise that you've let the chance slip away. Albeit the fact that I'm given the opportunities, I doubt them and watch helplessly as these chances slip out of my grasp. Indeed, quite depressing at times. Especially if one attempts to counter the 'cycle' in some way, shape or form; only to fail when the time comes...

I am straight but it is hard for any aspie to find some one. I am attracted to girls but i usually look for personality rather than looks. I have never dated any because i was to shy or they just ignored me/said no. It is hard no matter your sexuality, even for NTs. NTs tend to date for popularity, sex, but rarely find true love, if any love at all. I think aspies just want a real relationship and to find true love. Plus we think differently and look for people that we can connect with.

i'm pan

pansexuals are not technically just bi people who also like trans people, they're people who don't care about gender at all.

i regard everyone as a human and i'm not going to not love a person just because they're not the exact right gender because really hardly anyone fulfills all gender stereotypes

im straight and i agree with blade1993 i cant even imagine being with a girl im cant connect with. and i dont want to even try dating until i think i might have found "the one" hell i dont plan on getting married till i find "the one" but thats cuz i dont believe in divorce its sickening to me

I'm Bi