Ever feel left out by your "friends" ???

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I have always been left out.
I'm still being left out.
They probably don't invite me to things because they know I won't go... but I still want them to ask me.

I wish I could answer, but I don't have any friends

all the time...

Not really. There are few people I'm willing to socialise with outside of school, and I get so exhausted and panicky being out that I don't like to do it often anyway.

I do have a friend who is accomodating. When she invites me to the cinema it's not so often (she knows I'd decline a lot anyway) and she deliberately goes with a smaller group with people I at least know of and don't dislike - she normally is with a large group of friends and I couldn't deal with that, and it wouldn't be fair on either them or me. So this works.

I'm very confused by my closest friends at the minute. I don't go to see them very often, because I find social situations so tiring and it's hard to motivate myself, but I do go occasionally, and none of them ever come to see me. I know some of them are quite busy because they have GCSEs or A levels to deal with and on top of that, they all go to clubs and stuff, butit seems like somehow they manage to keep in touch with each other and not me. I saw them the other day and they had all these ongoing things they'd been talking about that I didn't understand and inside jokes that had developed without me. Two of them do go to the same singing group, but surely they can't be doing that much talking there if they're singing. Maybe I'm just being neurotic, but I'm really scared I'm going to lose them. It also does not help that they're all into stuff that's popular with teenagers and I'm a strange mixture of a language geek and someone who still loves Spongebob Squarepants...and on top of that, I'm a lesbian, so there's even an awkward feeling if I want to talk about someone I fancy.

Sorry about that; I just needed a rant.

I used to be in a friendly and accepting group but I decided that before I rejoin them I need to wait until their interests are not so childish.

Frequently, before I get there at lunch they form a circle, so I'm forced to sit outside of it, then they talk about stuff that I don't understand, and ignore me when I try to get involve, or say "it doesn't concern you" or something to that effect. They also don't wait for me after lessons, which annoys me, because I've told them too so MANY times!!

looking back i went though the same situation as you .there were hardly anything i attended with friends outside of school.first i used to be disappointed.but now i think i was better left alone.it's not so bad after all left alone with a interesting book in hand ,without going through the distressing socialzation process.
may be it's better to try befriending one person at a time instead of whole group gatherings.you can join any single person ouside school,either you can invite for activities or when any one of them need you,you can also be there for them.eventually they might get used to your company outside school,that might help,i guess
best of luck

I have a few good friends, and I go do a lot of things with them, but sometimes they do things without me,It doesn't bother me too much. At this time last year I didn't even have any friends

Screw my "friends," I feel left out bu my ACTUAL close friends. They don't do it on purpose, but it's hard to fit into a group of 3 girls who are all singers, musically gifted, hate sports with a passion, watch anime, listen to opera music for fun, can't stand 70s rock and are all neurotypical. It's tough. And GOD FORBID I forget who Eric Whitacre is and what the name of every anime character in Japan is called. They can trash on sports all they want, but I HAVE to sit as a quiet minority during their stupid anime crap. And I also do NOT like being videotaped, but do I get a say in that? Noo, I have to play some stupid vampire in some stupid skit!

Sigh. Sorry, had to get that off my chest.

That happened to me everyday at school. I had two friends in my lunch period, but the table was so crowded I usually had to either sit in the hallway alone or in the library alone. At least in homeschooling that's no longer a problem.

I hate this feeling.

I've never really had this problem. But that's probably because earning a status as a friend of mine takes a lot of work. Don't get me wrong, I've been left out a few times, but I don't care. I don't really understand the concept. Just because I'm friends with someone doesn't mean they can't do things with other people. Hey, if a friend is busy, that's usually a good thing; it gives me a break.

Until I left school, I was an outsider at best and had only acquaintances, and upon leaving school two years ago, particularly resented stuff like the OP's example.

Only recently have I managed to integrate with new groups, new circles, which are much more inclusive. Two examples, one online, and one offline. The online one is here. I feel more involved here than I have anywhere else online (I don't know if, from others' perspectives, I look involved here, but at least I feel so). Offline, there are youth groups I go to, and I am very much involved there, and very much not an outsider, and very much not left out unless it is of my own choosing.

That happened to me all the time, I remember in high school I ate lunch with a group daily my senior year, but one day nobody was at the spot we all sat, so I ate alone and then saw them later on and found out they all went out, having made the plans during their class before lunch, not remembering me.

I don't consider them friends now, so I don't really feel left out, just alone.

The reason I am being left out is because I never ask them to go out with me. This is very hard for me. I rarely try to call my friends to go out. When we go out it's nice but asking them is reaaaally hard.

my friend doesnt hang out with me...i just play with her brother when i go to her house.