Is it weird that I'm happy?

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So, um.
I don't really have a social life. Whenever I find a best friend, we have some kind of falling-out, then make up, then the friend has to move away or go to another school. I've never been in a romantic relationship, and I would have no idea how to handle one. I spend most of my time in my room with the lights off and the windows closed, and I rarely go outside unless I have to. I haven't been swimming in ages because I have body image issues that I'm aware are highly irrational, and I have poor personal hygiene. I never start a conversation, and when I talk to people, I'm incredibly awkward. I know about more than the lives of fictional characters than those of the people I know. And whenever I start to feel bad about any of this, I make myself stop thinking about it by reminding myself that in the grand scheme of things, it doesn't matter at all and no one really cares about it.
I'm actually very satisfied with my life. I'm doing the things that I like, everyone's very nice to me, and my social life on various forums seems to make up for my lack of one in the three-dimensional world. I'm a very smart girl in a stable and loving household with no financial problems. There are issues in my life that would make most teenage girls have a breakdown, but the way I see it, I'm doing just fine.
So, to drop the title of this thread: is it weird that I'm happy?

Not wierd. It sounds to me as if you have a lot of what you like and little of that which you don't. Happyness makes sense.

I don`t have much of a social life either and I`m happy!

Happiness should not depend upon other people. If you are happy as you are, then that's just great. Good for you!

Not weird that you are happy at all, the only social life I have is at school where I rarely talk to people, my best friends are my bears and my pets. I spend most of my time programming or writing fictional stories and I am usually very happy, unless around people.

Sounds a lot like me. I always thought it was strange that people think that a social life is required to be happy. Yeah, it's nice and all, but it isn't a requirement by any means.

So what gives me true happiness if not a social life? For me, having a low stress environment is crucial.

A social life doesn't make you happy. It just keeps you busy with other people. If you get busy with more than one person, then you tend to stay quite busy. Some aspies tend to lose sight of themselves when they get to this level of social involvement. They get pulled into too many different directions which turns them off from socializing. NT people just tend to group up so everybody is doing the same thing...thus, the "group" goes out and does this or that.

I have to say this: A month or two ago, I was an introvert. I never went out, and had no social life. If I'm completely honest, then yes, I was happy. A few weeks back I decided I wanted to try and give a social life a try. I really enjoy it now and at any opportunity I can I try to go out and see people. I really enjoy my new social life. What I'd suggest to you is perhaps on a saturday sometime, clean yourself up and go outside and try and meet people. If you enjoy it, carry on. If you don't, then keep staying at home. I was happy with no social life, but I'm even happier now with a social life. Give it a try, if you don't enjoy it, then that's fine.

I have lots of friends but I'm just happier when I'm on my own. So you're not alone out there

Yes indeed, my life goal is to live alone, in a rather decent house with modern convineinces and all. People think it is weird when I tell it to them but that is truly when I will be happy. Getting a girlfriend is juvenile to me so I'm very easy to please, GTFO and you're my best friend! LOL

ATM my Buffy dol is the closest BFF I've got!

Not at all weird.

I'm the same, it's more because I don't overly see the point of socializing though.
All it is, you start off just talking to someone and then yous do something small that yous both get annoyed about and you both start hating each other. A few days afterwards, yous make it up to each other and start talking again... This is when the cycle restarts again.