My Guy Friends Make Really Sexist Jokes

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I tend to be the only girl in the circle unless one of them happens to have a girlfriend around, which is rare. And I know that it's all in good fun, but there's only so many times one can hear, "I'm hungry". "Well tell Julia to make you a sandwich".

I don't want to shove my feminism in their faces, but it really does get to me. I threatened to slap one of them today because a guy was complaining about no sex life and one of them said, "Well take Julia in the other room."

They're guys. They're pretty much going to do that. So stand up for yourself, but do it with a sense of humor. Let them know you're not going to take a bunch of sh#% without handing it back. Make a few degrogatory male sterotype jokes. They'll get the message.

I don't want to shove my feminism in their faces, but it really does get to me. I threatened to slap one of them today because a guy was complaining about no sex life and one of them said, "Well take Julia in the other room."[/quote]

This will probably come out reverse sexist on my part, and I do know that there are a lot of guys in the world that are more evolved than this, but there are also a lot that fit this behavior. Try making fun of them back, especially with sexist guy jokes. That usually works with guys and they get the message. They communicate differently than women do and their "codes" are different. If you watch young boys, they actually punch each other hello when they are young and think nothing of it. Eventually, they use verbal punches to do this with each other later in life. The fact that they feel comfortable enough to joke in that manner is sometimes a compliment in their heads. You're supposed to retort back with something like "You couldn't handle it" to the sex remark or "Yeah we all know ____ would starve if he had to assemble something as complicated as a sandwich" and laugh. Eventually they will get bored and pick something else to play on. Weird but true.

lol im a guy and ive probably done this before idk its normal for NTs too i think. don't feel too bad about it.

One of the number one reasons why I never made friends with people of my own gender. Woman jokes. I hate them.

Though I think that since I grew up in an all-girl household, I'm a bit conditioned.

Typical guy behaviour Even though I realise that sounds a bit sexist in itself and I know that not all guys are like that! Try not to let it get to you and like others said, you can answer back to them but try and do it with a sense of humour. That way they'll be more likely to respect you and not make fun of you. It's best to be the one to start laughing because then they can only laugh with you.

Then they'd come out with "Try me." or something similar.

This would be a good time to give them a "friendly" punch, roll your eyes or stick your middle finger up laughing. "Trust me, love, you don't have a chance."

I don't really understand why girls get offended by it but I think sexist jokes are hilarious. I even make them from time to time.

It doesn't mean I don't think men are better than women or that we shouldn't be equal, I just think people take jokes too seriously.

Ok me and my friends has made that joke alot of times on some girls we know but they can answer back, which makes it more fun
But you shouldn't really take the jokes in me and my friends never mean stuff like that and the girls know that, so it dosen't bother them really.

Yikes. You should tell them to clean their mouths out. So disrespectful.

Why do you see it as you shoving feminism in their faces if you stand up for yourself but you don't see it as them shoving their male privilege in your face, under the guise of 'just joking' ? You have a right to stand up for yourself, don't be intimated into silence because they use the 'just joking' excuse. Humor is often used a form of aggression, especially by those with more power trying to keep those with less power in a subservient position--heterosexuals making gay jokes, white people making racist jokes, men making jokes about "dumb blondes" (who are always women, not male blondes) or "joshing" about traditional gender roles, or, for that matter, the way NT's use "autistic" and "Asperger's" as derogatory terms, saying things to each other like "You're quiet, are you feeling a bit autistic today?"

I'd ditch 'em.

I don't find those jokes funny either. Women have a hard enough time in life as it is without being the butt of every man's joke. :/

My brothers and their friends are about two years younger then me and have a circle of friends that make sexist jokes a lot. Some people at my school do too. They typically do it to mess around and have fun, when they do it in front of girls its all in good fun in their perspective but its not something I would do because it does come across as disrespectful. If they are your good friends then I'm sure they would understand if you told them that it bothered you.

Guys don't mean anything negative about it, it's just for laughs.

While I understand why you have an issue with it, you shouldn't be too offended, since the jokes are not meant to hurt you, they're just stupid excuses to laugh.

To most guys, jokes are as harmless as the word "pudding". They are for the purpose of laughter, and not sexism. You shouldn't let it bother you unless it's all you hear, then I'd get annoyed and offended that those jokes are the only ones they'd laugh to if I was in your shoes. Using the same joke 5 times in a row is stupid.

You could tell your friends to stop, but I don't think it would do much good, guys are pathetic when it comes to directions .