bearsandsyrup wrote:
I never got asked to a school dance. I just went with friends every time. Homecoming, I went with friends junior year and then a male friend senior year, then junior and senior prom I went with female friends. Guys didn't really like me until college. That's when my intense, eccentric personality became "hot" (at least to some people) rather than unanimously "weird".
This sounds a lot like what happened to me. The only time I ever had a date to any high school dances was because I asked a guy who I liked at the time to Sadie Hawkins. I went to both my junior and senior proms with a group of female friends. I was never asked. My friend forced me to go to senior prom, and I had a free ticket. The prom was terrible and I couldn't wait to get out of there because I got stuck seeing all the people in high school that I didn't like.
In college, things changed a lot. I went to a few parties and swing dance events. Finding someone to dance with wasn't very hard because I would just go with large groups of friends, switching off dancing between my guy friends and whatever random guys happened to ask me. It wasn't unusual for me or the other girls in the group to dance with 6 or 7 different guys per event. I have a Valentine's Day dance this upcoming weekend, and a guy asked me to be his date yesterday. We're together, but not official yet. I'm excited for the dance because this will be my first time having a date for Valentine's Day and I'm 19 years old. Dating gets a lot easier at a big college than in high school anyway, considering my high school dating experiences were awful.