How do you know if you are in love or not?

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I've never been in love in real life... But I have online. I'm in love with Anubis, one of the members here. He makes me feel good inside when I talk to him on Windows Live Messenger. ^^

When i'm in love with somebody, it's a hell of a lot of love.

You know, as an "Aspie" (although I don't like the term) I am often confused as to whether I've loved before, or am in love now, because every guy I've ever had a crush on I have been obsessed with.

Especially the current guy, I have never wanted to be with someone more badly in my entire life. He's incredibly hot, but I am completely into his personality, and I always wonder what is he thinking about, what is he feeling, what and who does he want, would he want to be with me or not? I absolutely want to be there for him, and help ease his pain, and to make him smile (and I LOVE his smile....), someone he can count on, open up to, and have fun with, and EVERYTHING. I want to spend my life with him, and I feel like we are alot alike.

And I don't like to just call it an "obsession" because sometimes people think an obsessive love is creepy and possibly dangerous, and calling it a "crush" just sounds so mild and somehow immature (I'm 26). It's certainly not just lust or I would just want his body right? And the other confusion is, whether you can truely love someone you can never be with? Do you have to BE in a relationship, and they have to have feelings for YOU or order to be LOVE? Can you love someone, even knowing a limited amount about them?

Love is a confusing topic, but I think having Aspergers makes it even more complicated, because people may think my obsession happens to be a person, and that its not real love. I think it IS love though.... And no doubt, if we WERE together, the feelings would be even more wonderful, because I would actually be sharing my life with him and not just daydreaming about it, and I would absolutely go out of my way to make him happy and care for him.

In fact, I just won't believe if anyone tells me that this isn't love. This couldn't possibly be anything else.... The only thing that stops me from fofilling everything else that makes it exactly comparable to real couples in love, is the fact that I can never be with him. And that's something I try not to think about. He always makes me happy as long as I don't let the pain of not having him get too close.

There's no point in me falling head over heels in love with someone.

As if I'd go out with them, it stays as much as good friends...Period.

I THINK ITS WHEN YOU GET BUTTERFLIES IN YOUR STOMACH WHEN YOU SEE THEM OR CANT WAIT FOR THE NEXT DAY OF SCHOOL JUST SO YOU CAN SEE HIM.. OR WHEN YOU GET INTO A FIGHT YOU CRY KNOWING THAT HE IS MAD AT YOU.... IM ONLY 12 BUT IVE ALREADY HAD THE BOY OF MY DREAMS BREAK MY HEART AND THATS WHEN I KNEW I WAS IN LOVE.... AND THEN SOON ENOUGH I HAD TO BREAK UP WITH HIM BECAUSE HE WAS BEING THE ONE THAT I HOPED HE WOULD NEVER BE.... HE WAS SAD BUT THEN HE WENT OUT WITH MY BEST FRIEND AT THE TIME. DO I THINK HE STILL LIKES ME??? YEAH I DO. DO I STILL LIKE HIM?? YEAH I DO BUT SO? NOTHING WILL BECOME OF IT.... ALTHOUGH I WISH SOMETHING WOULD.