Pretty confused right now

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So I'm seventeen years old and I may or may not have Aspergers. It's a bit like Schrödinger's cat at the moment. I've been seeing a psychologist for about seven months now for depression and she has recently told me about the possibility of me being an Aspie. I think this is unlikely considering I'm nearly eighteen?! I mean, I have quite a lot of traits associated with it but why wasn't it diagnosed earlier? Maybe I'm in denial right now or just confused.

Sorry for all that it probably didn't make sense

What are we suppose to answer to this? Cuz if u want our opinion on if u have it, we need to know what you have in common or not. It is pretty weird that no one realized that before because aspies do think very differently but u might only have a very small asperger level. And it's fine to know, if your gonna get diagnosed or something but the label doesn't change who you are and how you think. So stay who you are and chin up

AS diagnoses are weird. It's perfectly normal to only be diagnosed at around 18; I know of people who weren't diagnosed until their 40s, and many people are never diagnosed at all. If this is the first time you've spent much time around a psychologist, that may be the deciding factor in why you're being diagnosed now. You may or may not be an Aspie, but if you are, it's normal to be diagnosed only now.

Yeah, a lot of people aren't diagnosed until later. I'm 20 and was only diagnosed last year. Also, what gender are you? Because if you're not a guy, it's even more likely that you're not diagnosed young.

You say you might be in denial though, by which I think you mean you don't want to be an aspie? (Sorry if I'm getting the wrong end of the stick here.) There's nothing wrong with being autistic/asperger's - I know there's a lot of scaremongering in the world about it, but it's really just having a slightly different brain, and you're fine!

I see the responses here are about diagnoses and if that's what you're worrying about, don't because I'm not diagnosed. Well I'm thirteen, but I don't think I'll be diagnosed any time soon. But you never mentioned you were gon get diagnosed soon either. O_o but any way don't be worried about having aspergers. There's nothing wrong about it

Aspies are quite adept at flying under the radar; the visible traits being written off as 'quirks', 'ADD' or some other effect.
it takes a true professional (or knowledgable spectrumite or parent of-) to connect the dots, you need to know what to look for, and that aspergers (or high functioning autism, for that matter) exists in the first place; many mental professionals don't, not really.

I was diagnosed 2 months ago and I am 42. I only recognised I had it when my young son was diagnosed 2 years ago. It is natural to feel confused at this time. You may well have it and not have known. Personally I had always avoider any contact with health professionals so haven't been lumbered with any misdiagnosed labels in the past. Funny really cos I am a nurse. Please don't worry about it. It will take a bit of getting used to but you're still the same person just a bit better informed.

Well, I wish you the best luck with your therapy and whether or not you get diagnosed.

you say you know you have traits associated with it, did you ever tell your parents, or anyone besides your psychologist that you felt that way, earlier? or did they themselves notice it? since nobody is going to come outright and diagnose you, and i don't know if your psychologist would require your consent and/or that of your parents to get a formal DX.

and about being 18, AS symptoms don't go away over time, you just learn to adapt. so age doesn't change that.

I know how you feel, I'm 17 and I've been in the process of being diagnosed for like 3 years now. I saw a psychologist a few times last year, and I guess she talked to my parents, but I actually never found out whether or not I'm officially diagnosed

The older we get, the more coping mechanisms we develop to make up for autistic social deficits, so the more easily many of us manage to fly under the radar and be dismissed simply as awkward and weird. I didn't know what AS was until I was 45 and wasn't diagnosed until just before I turned 50. Many of us diagnosed later in life are actually thrilled and relieved to know that the disabilities we've struggled with for decades have a name and a cause, rather than just being personality defects (which is what we've been told all our lives).