Experiences Common to Aspie Kids

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Here are some things I experienced when I was a kid (and when I was a teenager). I'm wondering if these are things other Aspies can relate to.

1. losing my shoes
2. getting to school only to realize I'm not wearing shoes
3. getting picked on by NT classmates
4. lapsing into cloud cuckoo land during an important lecture (I learned how to makerude noises with my hands while I was supposed to be paying attention in church)
5. being afraid of mundane things such as playground slides (I was afraid of getting shocked by static electricity as I slid down

Any more suggestions?

For me: some general things

1) Being in my own world a lot of the time, and I still very much am, not nearly as much as before.
2) Making up fictional stories to entertain myself
3) Constant social exclusion from peers especially during middle school and early highschool.
4) Not understanding what it meant to be a kid
5) Huge amounts of social anxiety and avoidance

They all sound familiar. My suggestions.

1. Getting into trouble for: being rude, being honest, not listening, zoning out, not following instructions (in their opinion) and saying the wrong things.

2. Failing to understand the concept of peer pressure and conformity.

3. wanting friends but failing; wanting solitude instead getting picked on & bullied

4. feeling like an alien abandoned on the wrong planet (fitting for this forum)

5. High frustration levels and explosions of rage, temper, which I have finally got under control

6. obsessing over my special interests and being fascinated by the things no one else seemed to see..

according to the OP, i experienced 3 and 4, picked on alot in middle school, not so much in high school although i may have been a little bit

1. Being alot more than my NT classmates.

2. Zoning out

3. Thinking out loud or rambling

4. Self-destructing, which I've mostly got under control, I don't lash out anymore I just shout and curse, generally because my freinds are doing something degrading to me and won't stop.

5. Inability to accept change, I've got that under control aswell, I freak out on the occasional thing but it's not usually bad the last time was because my parents ordered me a pizza and domino's didn't have meatballs and so used the ingredients for them on the pizza instead.

Here are some experiences I can share:

1. Saying the wrong thing to my girlfriend (I'm greatful to have her, even though we don't understand eachother half the time)
For example:
Girlfriend: I love wales!
Me: Me too! Their delicious!
Girlfriend: WHAT!?!?
Me: Sorry! Sorry! Sorry! I didn't mean that! Uh, um, uhhh.

2. Burrying my head in my arms everytime the afternoon announcements come on because I don't like the intro music they use.

3. People harrassing me because of my specialized interests.
Example:
Kid: Hay. whacha got thar?
Me: A Japanese newspaper.
Kid: LOLz Japans dumb We bombed there butts in WW2 go reed chinese at home
Me: I thought we just established that I am infact reading Japanese. I don't understand a word of Chinese.
Kid: thar the same language lolz
Me: Please, just leave.

4. Occasionally shaking someone's hand when they're expecting a sideways hand slap.

5. Really getting into the "zone" at the most innapropriate times.

6. Giving my girlfriend ackward Frankenstein hugs.

7. Flinching, and flailing my arms forward when people touch my shoulders.

8. Eating lunch in a specific order (For me it's side dish, main dish, snack, drink)

9. That bell between classes is just too loud.

10. Ignoring my siblings, mom, and mom's boyfriend.

11. Walking around our woods in isolation, isolating myself in my room, or if I really need it, going on the roof by myself. (These make me feel safe, and at peace)

12. Not being able to do something unless plans to do so have been made 2 to 3 days in advance.

13. Having none or a few real friends (everyone else is just someone I know, but I wouldn't consider us friends)

14. Hating hanging out with people because I could be doing something better (like learning Japanese, building robots, or drawing)

some of my experiences with AS include

1. not getting NT jokes/ social rules (especially when my teachers joke)

2. special interest (ex. manga, not well known where I live)

3. an impressive vocabulary
Me- Our culture is usually considered a patriarchal society.
Class mate- Wha?
Me- It means our culture is usually seen as one run more by men.
Class mate- Oh, you use big words.

4. Good (reading) memory

5. Getting bullied in middle school (until I flipped a guy over my shoulder)

6. Having family look at me different (sometimes like I'm stupid)

7. Being told I'm not crazy (after a lifetime of being told I am), and finding there are other people like me.

8. A different view of life in general (which annoys my grandparents to no end)

Early elementary school (6-9):

1 - Not making any real friends

2 - Being obsessed with things that nobody else cared about

3 - Being considered a genius due to hyperlexia

4 - Being seen as a prophet by my teachers for my good behavior and intelligence

5 - Daydreaming in class, but being able to get away with it

Late elementary school (9-12):

1 - Having a few close friends

2 - Being harassed for special interests

3 - Not understanding the concept of fitting in and being "cool"

4 - Living in my own world; daydreaming much too often

5 - Doing well in school, despite the above

Middle school (12-14):

1 - Getting completely left behind socially

2 - Feeling like I'm from the wrong planet, as a result

3 - Pursuing interests as a source of happiness

4 - Hating school, and people in general

5 - Developing an awareness of socially awkward traits

Early high school (14-16):

1 - Becoming excessively self aware

2 - Not understanding myself

3 - Continuation of obsessions as an only source of happiness

4 - Continuation of verbal bullying, although not as bad

5 - Developing a concern for my identity

Late high school (16-17):

1 - Significant decline in verbal harassment

2 - Discovering AS

3 - Understanding myself (mostly as a result of 2)

4 - Enjoying school

5 - Planning for the future, and working to get there

1. Not having any friends
2. letting the person that i hated with a passion tell me there was a new kid. FATAL MISTAKE
3. Was let down badly by that "friend"

Elementary School

~Having no friends, and not caring

~Being harassed emotionally and physically by my dad. He would often keep me up until midnight on homework, because he hid it during the afternoon when I wanted to do it.

~Being misunderstood all the time.

~Being a nervous wreck, as a result from my dad.

Laurelhurst Elementary (Portland)

~Mom divorces dad, life gets slightly better.

~Made three friends, one of them an Aspie.

~Diagnosed with AS.

Middle School (Scappoose)

~New town, new people.

~Bullies.

~Still a nervous wreck.

~Making two new friends, despite my anti-social attitude.

~Autism awareness assembly was scheduled, opening my peer's eyes.

High School

~Stopped visitation with my dad, my life gets infinately better.

~I'm no longer a nervous wreck.

~Doing very well in my classes.

~Finally got bully problem resolved.

~Discovering that I had a knack for math.

OMG! ME TOO!

I can relate to this.

Elementary School (from 1st to 5th grade):

a) eating at snack time by myself
b) playing with my food at lunch time
c) building things with my pens
d) considered a genius because I was advanced
e) one of the handful of kids that behaved
f) daydreaming (I could get away with it then)

Middle School (from 6th to 8th grade):

a) been accused of staring
b) not paying attention
c) having things thrown at me (by the students)
d) pacing around the house at night (if anyone else does this) while rambling and reciting my story dialogue to myself (I write fanfiction, but I also do it on other things)
e) getting picked on (by students and I'm positive the teacher has it out for me)
f) getting things thrown at me (by the 7th grade teacher (1))
g) people getting in my face (counting the 7th grade teacher)
h) playing with the things on my desk (then the teacher throws them at me when she confiscates them)
i) got mad over a glove (look, even if I shouldn't have had it, playing monkey in the middle with them was just too far)
j) still not understanding myself (or the world)
k) made 2 friends (Marcus and Sage)
l) fell in love with Math (it provides a challenge and I like it)



1) Can she do that? 'Cause last year that puttana threw my notebook at me.

Primary School
1.Excessive daydreaming
2.Not understanding slang
3.Discovering jokes and using them as a social mechanism
4.Given the nickname Crackpot (Only just found out what that meant )
5.Diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome and ADHD
6.Given a teaching asistant
7.focused on my special interest (which was and still is Poke'mon)

High School
1.eating my lunch or breakfast in a secluded corner of the caffeteria.
2.New teaching asistant assigned
3.made a real freind named josh (who also likes pokemon, but he unfortunatley hacks items)
4.wrote a story about autism in english
5.teaching asistant changed to current one
6.Mix and match of teaching asistants due to current one being sick for a couple of weeks.
7. was sent to play football with other kids who had learning difficulties and some i asume on the spectrum ( i have no idea what they were thinking sending an aspie who has widley expressed that he abhores football and who cringes at large crows and team building excercises to a building full of football, large crowds (ok one medium crowd), team building excercises and so many people i didn't know. Now that i think of it could have made a spectrumite freind.)
8.given an award for over progress in my school (it was for those with difficulties so it applies)
9.largley featured in an educational DVD used to train teaching staff on autism.
10.most recentley finding the perfect spot to just get away from everyone.
11.whatevers gona happen in the future

Last edited by AutibotXD on 30 Dec 2011, 12:19 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I dunno when I was kid I never even paid any attention at all to socialising, I had like one "friend" and I spent most of my time in my own world, or killing ants...

OMG I never realized this until now! I thought I was alone with this!

It's THAT common? I can't believe it! I hated slides for such a long time for that reason!

Early childhood (1st memory (2? 3? Definitely post-language but pre-verbal) - Kindergarten (4))
* Not understanding the concept of owning objects and things
* Not understanding boredom on others' part
* Wearing thick clothing in the summer
* Not understanding the seriousness of death, especially because of the euphemism, "passed away"
* Not understanding the concept of other written languages
* Many failed social interactions, averse to interacting

Childhood (1st grade (5) - 3rd grade (7))
* Gradually decreasing reading of fiction books
* Anything while playing made-up stories checked for viability from existing knowledge
* Spatially disorganized but chronologically neat
* Strong interest in natural sciences in general

Late childhood (4th grade (8) - 7th grade (10))
* Strong interest in languages
* Interest in natural sciences narrows to chemistry
* General emotion of memories happy or blithe
* Learned about short-story writing (a rusty skill now)
* Interest in computers fluctuates

Transition (8th grade (11))
* Avoiding shorts for no apparent reason
* Mourned change to out-schools
* Bored during science class
* Minor interest in mathematics (grades steadily increased with little outside motivation)
* Fairly good at Spanish despite lack of interest (rote memorization, program generally split into 1A for 7th grade and 1B for 8th grade)
* Did not understand subtle concepts such as connotation
* Too truthful and open about everything
* Occasionally noticed self stimming but thought nothing of it
* Attention to rules noted ("You're a walking Handbook!")
* Never sat by others unless invited
* Hated PE but got away with taking only one quarter (out of two required) because of status as new student

Improvements (9th grade (12) - early 11th grade (14))
* Wearing a jacket in any weather (Southern Californian weather)
* General improvements in socialization and grades even when bored
* Interest in chemistry narrows further to organic chemistry
* Never sat by others unless explicitly invited
* Began trying to play the St. Nicc [sic] game but realized creating enemies required plenty of interaction
* Sporadic short-term special interests develop
* Realized a strong dislike for tactile contact (not realized previously due to lack of tactile contact)
* Idealistic but appeared cynical due to lingering excessive truthfulness
* Hated and loathed PE but could not escape
* First person in fifteen or fifty years to refuse to take sexual education or related classes and win
* Interacted almost solely with students in similar classes (not special education because nothing noticed by anyone)

Regression (late 11th grade (15) - early 12th grade (15))
* Distressed by changes
* Lost interest in ecological component/semester of AP Biology
* Withdrew almost completely
* Never sat by others unless explicitly and politely invited
* Peers notice something definitely wrong
* Still assumed AS, "happens to other people"
* Found solace in working on ISTS project but failed to meet deadline by a few minutes because of forgetting about time zone differences
* Found little motivation to continue working on academics
* Spent most of time awake on special interests, conworlding, and other special interests [sic]
* Distressed by other changes
* Increased shutdowns

Return (mid 12th grade (16) - present (16))
* Realized AS (perhaps even classic AD) was actually accurate
* Found WP
* Learned several meanings for, "friend," but nonetheless failed to have any
* Became more optimistic
* Attempted to increase socialization (but failed)
* Stimming increase detected
* Withdrew but retained connection through student government
* Never sat by others unless explicitly, politely, and honestly invited
* Escaped having to attend three parties (but still had to attend Homecoming Dance, which had some areas without excessive noise)