Do you trust/confide in your parents?

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i used to tell my mom everything. I took a trip to spain by myself, my first time there. I loved it. everytime I began to feel bad, or get picked on, i couldnt contact my mom as much, so I had to keep it to myself and deal with then problems myself. I learned that dealing with problems myself, and listening to myself actually works better than getting an opinion from everyone. Now that im back in the US, i dont talk to her much or tell her too much of my problems, and i found out that i am much more happy and calm without the feeling of having to tell my mom everything. she is also the type of person who freaks out and goes on and on forever about stuff without getting to the point. so in spain if i needed to talk to her I emailed her, and in emails people dont feel like writing so much so they get straight to the point and are more honest.

but no, no one should really be talking about there problems too much to people, its a bad habit to get in because people have all sorts of opinions that dont match the other person's or yours and you get confused and frustrated. just solve stuff your way, thats what i do. and it works out fantastic.

wow i shouldve been doing that all my life.

Yo debiera hecho eso toda mi vida. No te digas todos. es mejor que lo mantienes a ti

I used to, but I don't anymore, they don't really have anything good to offer I suppose.

To an extent. I'd like to talk to them more, but I don't feel like I can completely trust them. I used to tell my mom almost everything, but then I found out that she was telling my dad things I'd told her in confidance (and yes, my mom knew that I didn't want her to be repeating everything to my dad). My dad and I have never been close and I don't like to tell him personal stuff about me.

I also used to be really close to my sister, but she can be downright cruel if my opinion is different than hers. A couple weeks ago I was trying to explain how I felt in typical conversations...it was pretty personal information, I was basically pouring my heart out, and that's hard for me to do. Her response at the end was "Oh, sorry, I was kind of tuning you out. I was thinking about Arby's. Whenever you talk about all your 'problems' I start thinking about food."

Lately I've found that it's easier to keep things to myself and try to work out my problems on my own.

I don't trust my mom, any dad is an ass most of the time so no talking to him either.

I'd rather hide something than tell them. My mom and dad are separated. My mom is trying to "brainwash" me about my dad and vice versa. I don't listen to them cuz I know the truth-they had a forbidden affair when they're 19/21 y/o and BOOM!The fruit was me!

(PS: I don't trust them.My cat is more trustworthy than them)

I rarely tell my parents when I have a problem. My Mom is the type of person to want to solve everything, but her well-meaning suggestions often miss the point entirely and only frustrate me. She doesn't believe I have AS and misunderstands most of my problems. My father generally gets uncomfortable when I share a problem, so I just don't. But then again, I don't live with my parents, so its'easy to avodi telling them stuff. When I still lived with them, I didn't confide in them either for the same reasons, but they would get angry when I had confided in someone else (eg. a teacher), and would sometimes nag me into telling them until eventually I did.

I don't tell my mother EVERYTHING, but I do tell her alot.

I've never had a Dad, and my Mom is a Chaos Junkie, so I don't really tell her anything. I used to try when I was little but I've learned that she doesn't care about trying to make me feel better, all she cares about is her fantasy that she is right about everything and everyone around her is wrong. When I would tell her I had a problem she would always try to find some way to convince me I was wrong, like when I told her how angry I was that a classmate was harassing me for being gay and all she said was if I didn't act gay I wouldn't have that problem. One time I was trying to tell her I wanted to learn more about my Hawaiian Heritage because I'm 1/4th Hawaiian, and she somehow twisted it into an arguement about me betraying her caucasian heritage for a father that's never been there for me.

I love my Mom, she's showed more love towards me then anybody else in my family, but I can't put up with her drama. I try to avoid discussing anything importaint with her.

Well, I confide to my parents when I feel extremely desperate for help and will risk being berated and yelled at for messing up, but most of the time, I rarely tell myself to them. It's not that I don't trust them--it's just that I don't want to be yelled at or be given words that I think won't help me any bit. Plus, to add that I got traumatized when I tried to speak out and be wrongly accused of something everytime I do so. So there.

I know what that's like, any time I'd disagree with my Mom on anything she said she would start yelling at me and treating me like a horrible person. I find it funny how she lets my brother slide with back-talking her, sometimes she's even threaten to send me to a Youth Detention Camp just for arguing with her. Is it even possible for a parent to do that? If it is then I hate the legal system even more.

Yeah, parents. Sometimes, they could be unfair, leading us to distrust them at times. Sigh...

By the way, happy 19th birthday, bro.

I don't.

Well, I don't tell my mom too much, I tell my dad more... but far from everything

I never ever trusted my parents.Anyways,I don't live with them!

I'll talk to my Mom about some things, but I talk about my problems more with my friends ha ha. They come to me a lot too