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22 Jul 2010, 8:51 pm

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If your gf is out of the closet, maybe you could stay with her family for a while if you get kicked out. Even if your mom does kick you out, she may take you back after she's calmed down.


Excellent idea. Talk with your gf and her family first.

I REALLY hope things work out with you and your mom. I can't stand when parents make their love for their children "conditional." I hope that turns out not to be the case here.


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22 Jul 2010, 11:24 pm

I know for a fact that right wing conservatives have been know to disown their own children on the grounds they are gay. Maybe the rest of you don't live in a hard core red state. But I've seen how intolerant they can be. If your mom really is homophobic I'd simply wait the remaining 2 years until your legally and adult and tell her then. Unless she's paying for you college or something in which case I'd say for your own sake to wait that much longer.



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27 Jul 2010, 4:45 am

Theres lots of good advice here... 8)

Etular: I like the term undefined :D hmm mysterious..

Jimdotbeep: yeah, arh... It's up to her... But I guess it could be a question of finance, further schooling who is paying etc...

and.. there has been familes who have kicked their children out, it's something you have to judge.

AND like Etular says be careful about posting any kind of information online/on your House computer ( computer at your house) I know a lot of people like to go snooping.

hmmm.. theres plenty of other queer aspies out there :D

I told my mum a while back, that was interesting :)

feel free to PM me, and im sure others dont mind listening?

thanks to the aussie for supporting us :D cheers :D

AND like someone else said here.. go to the local Queer Youth Groups, its scary but it's unlikely they will out you :D

I created a forum too :) so get posting :P


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05 Jan 2011, 10:07 pm

Consider the pros and cons. talk about it with fernanda as well and ask her opinion. before talking to your mom, though, ask her opinion on the subject in general (the whole liking others thing and what dating was like) if you aren't comfortable with going straight into the subject, try slowly leading into it.

e.g.

You: hey mom

Mom: oh hey what happened at school today?

you: nothing much. a lot of people talk about dating. what was dating like for you?

mom: *talks about her experiences, ect.*

you: what are your thoughts on the more unconventional aspects/concepts of dating and romance, ect.

mom: *her responses*

see where it goes from there. hope it works out


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