How do you know if your friends actually like you?

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I guess I never thought it was important whether they really liked me or not. Who says anyone is really anything anyway...?

Does your school have some sort of political club? (like JSA: http://jsa.org/, or your country's equivalent )

I was lucky enough to meet one very political person and a few who could easily be dragged into a political conversation by chance during the first few weeks. Our first conversation, we end up talking about our similar religious histories, Apartheid, and how South Africa is very different today. Today, I would call her my best friend, but I hate the exclusivity of the term. Try, through clubs and whatnot, to find more serious people. Even if the people you know actually like you, you'll be happier with people you can have a real conversation with. (And, er, serious political discussion also can turn into hilarious jokes. Serious ≠boring.) If your school has AP/IB/Honors History classes, taking those may find you some people for serious discussion, though it will also find you some soulless overachievers with no interest in the subject matter.

I don't. I thought that me and one friend were good, chill, tight, (whatever speech era you choose) and then they just… cooled off. I don't know. One week we were best buds and the next… pffft. Not saying it'll happen like that to you.
Is poking an OCD behavior? I feel like a need to poke someone.

I actually ask them, unless it's a friend that I've known since we were kids. In that case I figure they either do like me.

There's no point, because actions speak louder than words. People who like you don't always acknowledge it in words, and really, it's best to try not to ask (I'm the biggest hypocrite for this). Just judge if they are actually there for you by what they do. Someone who is your friend and is always too busy to see *you* is not a friend. Having said that, sometimes if you overwhelm someone they'll use excuses like that for a while because they need space from you. If they keep talking to you (not mainly about their problems) then I think it's a fairly safe bet that they still like you.

With me, I'll go through periods where I don't see them or want to hang out, then periods where I do.

Although my close friends always say "I love you" to each other, so that's also sort of a clue I think. I have three close friends who say it when we hang up the phone and who hug me and say it when they leave or I leave. Of course saying it doesnt mean you mean it, but I wouldnt think they would take the trouble to say it if they didn't.

i do not really care if they like me much. i am not a bad person, but i am a rather self contained person, and many people do not bother to try to get to know me much because i am blind to their own inspirations and there is no trading of thoughts.

i have 3 people who regularly ring me, and i find it to be a chore to describe how my "day" has unfolded when they ask me to tell them what is "happening". there is more happening than what can be described, and their appraisals of what i describe is one of those happenings

Agreed have a break down and you soon learn who your "friends" and "family" are , is it any wonder we don't bother with people ?