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17 May 2012, 4:31 pm
Reason number two is that she thinks dating before college is more academically and emotionally risky. In middle school and high school, students are going through puberty, so that means raging hormones, indecisiveness, and emotional immaturity mixed into the already dramatic nature of dating. In college, however, the students have all reached adulthood, and they become more rational and stable.
I see her point in both of these reasons, however, I feel that I'm mature enough to handle a relationship with a well-chosen guy. I can't just go right ahead and declare, "I can do whatever I want", because as of right now, I'm still living under my parents' roof, and they will be funding most of my college education as well.
Well a couple points:
-Honestly all you have to do is pass highschool to get into college, its not as though they specially select only the best of the best future students. So I am not sure why she thinks people in college would be so much better.
-She is right it's more risky.....but considering you are 18 it should be up to you to take that risk or not, but of course take precautions. Also though typically by late highschool puberty is over for most. I don't know of many 18 year olds still going through puberty.
-And yeah I wouldn't suggest declaring that either......however I hope they really would not seriously use that you live under their roof and their funding of your college education to control all aspects of your life. But maybe waiting till college is a better idea depending on how limited the 'pool' is I mean is there even anyone you are interested in right now?
At those schools, they really do select the brightest, most hard-working students. I was interested in this Aspie guy from my school, but it's clear that it wouldn't work out. And with graduation coming in only a few weeks, college is about the only choice I have. 
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Sounds like she has fair points but I don't really get why she then doesn't just trust you to use your own judgement, after establishing that you understand this.
Of course this is coming from the mom that is 'frowned upon' for pushing DD too high on the swings (she likes it better that way!) and not being within 3 feet distance all the time (she knows to come to me when she needs me and I do watch her to see if there's nothing too dangerous around).
So, maybe my parenting ideas are not exactly average 
I'm a big believer in letting children explore within reasonable boundaries. I just seem to have a different concept of 'reasonable' than those overly protective types...
Yes we can be a bit naive at times but naive and completely unfamiliar with the situation seems worse to me. If we never see a situation, how are we supposed to learn how to deal with it? Not to mention that hearing 'you are unable to do this' too much can have a huge impact on your sense of self 
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29 May 2012, 6:37 pm
What I don't understand is, my parents let me go to school dances with a date (just as friends) but they won't let me actually date.
(As for which college I'm actually going to, it's MIT.)
For the college thing oh ok. Hope your doing well in it?
As for the dating thing I think I can understand a bit more from where there coming from. I know when I was younger I had a naive look to me and my parents knew this however I certinaly wasnt naive I just had a sign of some sorts that said here I am take advantage of me! Maybe you have this sign too and your parents know it?
I think I know what you mean by having an immature appearance. My mom was just lecturing me about it earlier last week. She says that even though I'm smart intellectually, I appear "dumb" compared to other kids my age.
29 May 2012, 11:10 pm
What I don't understand is, my parents let me go to school dances with a date (just as friends) but they won't let me actually date.
(As for which college I'm actually going to, it's MIT.)
For the college thing oh ok. Hope your doing well in it?
As for the dating thing I think I can understand a bit more from where there coming from. I know when I was younger I had a naive look to me and my parents knew this however I certinaly wasnt naive I just had a sign of some sorts that said here I am take advantage of me! Maybe you have this sign too and your parents know it?
I think I know what you mean by having an immature appearance. My mom was just lecturing me about it earlier last week. She says that even though I'm smart intellectually, I appear "dumb" compared to other kids my age.
If your comfortable with this post your picture? I doubt that to me youll look dumb, however according to my parents I have the look in my eyes of a ret*d person yet according to the aspies I know real well even though Im not the brightest the look I give off is actually a genius look? Im not trying to brag but maybe you have the Aspie/Autie look to you?
As for appearance do you like makeup, dressing up etc? I hit that stage but only for guys I liked in the past then it ended and their went the pretty girl who got taken advantage of back to the ugly tomboy(as Im called though I dont consider myself in the least bit ugly) Anyways maybe this is why they wont let you?
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