What do you do when you are bullied/harrassed?

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I used to counter insult bullies, but that very often backfired. I take things too literally. Now the best policy, I think is just laughing it off dubiously if it's an insult. I have not been bullied at sixth form, so I have had no chance to experiment with such. However, the new wave of bullying in high schools is disturbing. More failures than ever, abusing technology, and being warped into pieces of worthless trollop. The bullies of today are even more disturbing than the bullies I faced up until the middle of 2006. They made me feel horrible, and tested my sanity and integrity. I would love revenge, and to put the new generation of bullies in place. I've escaped the misfortune of happy slapping, but still my own and the next generation send a shiver down my spine in so many ways.

In my 9 year old sister's class, someone said that Jade Goody was their role model. It sickens me to think what is going on in some kids' minds..

Oh dear, I've gone off topic.
Still, most of my old enemies are not enjoying their new careers, such as criminals and sewer cleaners. Being confident in their impending failure helped me to survive high school. I couldn't win the battles, but by living and being unhindered by them in the long term, and seeing the results of their idiocy and ignorance, I have won the war.

The ideal response varies with the bully and their motivation. Appearing weak and vulnerable is a magnet for bullying as well. A heavy bag is useful armour and weaponry.

I'll split this up in two ways:
Destructive Behaviour and Nondestructive Behaviour

And between these:
1)Flaming
2)Trolling

Destructive Behaviour includes: shoving and poking, throwing things, slapping, choking, punching and kicking, beating, stabbings, pulling hair, scratching, biting and scraping. Anyone who does this deserves to be incarcerated and have their body organs harvested for scientific research (Same as those who react in such a manner as well).

Nondestructive Behaviour: name calling, the silent treatment, arguing others into submission, manipulation, gossip/ false gossip, lies, rumours/ false rumours, staring, giggling, laughing at the victim , saying certain words that trigger a reaction from a past event, and mocking. Ehh, this kind of stuff does bother me to some degree, but it seems I'm guilty of doing this myself and I think people who react violently need to be incarcerated and have their bodily organs harvested for scientific research.

1) Basically behaviour that is meant to upset the target at whatever the cost.

2) Basically behaviour to derive enjoyment from the stupidity of the target.

Anyway, I do not really know what to do against physical violence as my mind sort of blanks during such moments. Luckily my evasive behaviour has allowed me not to experience much for physical violence...

As for nondestructive behaviour, it really depends on the intentions. If someone is trying to call me a name to upset me, the most important thing for me to do is not become upset or it'll satisfy their sick minds.

Now if someone wants to argue with me, I usually just cease participation; although, in the cases that I do participate, I will argue the other person into submission which is probably not a good thing considering that arguing with people increases the likelihood of them harming me.

I do engage in this nondestructive behaviour probably because I see social interaction as some weird list of rules and I feel some sort of need to question the reason why I'm supposed to behave in order not to offend someone. Well, hopefully humans will evolve past the point where people aren't petty enough to be offended by trivial/insignificant comments on something as silly as an emotional attachment, but I doubt that'll happen anytime soon. =(

Summary: I'm evasive and passive aggressive. My behaviour is a hazard to my health if I were to meet any violent individuals with no logic, reason and temperament.

i a extremly good at plotting evil clever revenge plots that always work and i destroy from the insside out just bullys though

I say nothing until I get home from school and tell my mom.

i have some experience in bullies and i went to a new school almost every year. i have been to 9 schools. first of all i have always been the quiet kid. in elementary school i had a short temper and would attack anyone who angered me. i did not attack out of nowhere and i gave warnings when people were making me mad. i didn't choose weak people, i attacked anyone who made me mad. like bullies going after other kids, people who keep talking to me even after me warning them that i will hurt them if they don't stop, and teachers. i even threw a desk at a teacher in the 4th grade.
on to middle school. in middle school i pretty much attacked someone once a year because of them constantly bugging me and anger growing over time. also i was also sent to mental hospitals three times. in middle school the problems also came up with me hating people touching me and people yelling. i have a lot of trouble being around yelling and i shut down if it goes on to long and i will try to hit anyone who touches me. but in middle school i grew to 6'2 and was the quiet kid so most people kept away from me and every school year i ended up bringing up that i have been to mental hospitals because its makes for good story's and the mental hospital were pretty nice and the people were really fun. but quiet kid who has been to mental hospitals kept most people from messing with me.
now to high school. my tolerance is better but not cured, i attack someone every other year when i cant take it any more. now its not really people messing with me anymore, it's people that just try to make everyone in the room angry. and there have been a lot of them in high school.

i actually cut a lot of things out of this before i posted it because once i think of something to type it gets hard to stop and a decent amount of what i had was irrelevant details . and i am sorry for not capitalizing any of it because i never really made it a habit of doing that. i hope someone enjoys reading this.

I just sit there and let it happen. I sometimes retaliate but then it makes them more vicious and mean. I just tell my mum everything when i get home from school. This girl was kicking me one time to get off a seat she wanted and squashed my fingers so hard i screamed in agony. I scrathed her then she went and told the teache ri hurt her and she had no idea why, The worst thing was they were in a group and one of who i thought was my friends stuck up for her. The teachers always seem to beleive the manipulating ones and dont hear the full side of the story. Now i do homeschool so i do not have to bother with that and i feel so much better.

I usually act very passive or very aggressive, usually the former. Although, once I was beaten up because of some absurd speculation that I was racist, and that is the only instance that I can recall when I was aggressive. I was 12 years of age at the time, and some imbecile began to proclaim that I dislike dark skinned people, merely because my skin is pale, and I did not wish to touch them* (granted, they did have olive coloured skin). This was grossly irrational, and as fast as I could process what had occurred, I found myself being beaten into a fence. So, I decided after simply ignoring the blantant truth for several moments that it would be wise to defend myself for once, so I formed my hand into a fist, and unbelievably punched this fellow in his eye socket, somewhere that I have read, will hurt.

However, excluding this preferably forgotten instance I have always been passive when dealing with schoolyard bullies. I usually just ignore them when it is verbal, despite weeping on the inside (yes, I am one of those people that are deeply offended by insults). Either that or I reply in some form of intellectual wit that causes them to retreat.

When my sister is 'bullying' me, however, I usually behave aggressively, without harming her of course.

In conclusion, I should not be aggressive as I am quite weak in comparison to my peers, and it is inevitable that I will always loose any battle I enter.

* - I am certainly not a 'touchy' person, as I am mysophobic.

Ignore, yawn, if bugging still persists, give a glare, drop hints here and there that 'I will make you suffer if you continue'. No violence though. I'm not willing to land myself in trouble with the authorities...

Dropping a fake/dead bug on their table works as well. Of course, I'm hygienic so what I do is drop a fake one and use things that will scare the living hell out of them like jack in a box. Or torment them in one way or another.

Or I can just report it to someone. It works.