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My post had nothing to do with regular masturbating at all. It really wasn't a puberty type question. I am on a big teen forum with a puberty section to ask puberty questions in.

The subject was unconscious stimming. If I said I tug on my ear a lot without realizing it, no one would have reacted the way they did and this wouldn't have been shipped to the seldom used adolescent section.

But since I said I unconsciously tug on my penis, people seem to get all weird. Including me I guess. If I had to do it over, I would have just said, I tug on my penis unconsciously and not used the word masturbate at all. I was really looking for mature comments from the adults here. Oh well.

I don't see how it was a troll post. I thought what he said was true and it can get you into trouble with the law if you do it in public and people can think that of you. Maybe he said it too bluntly perhaps. I wouldn't know of a better way of saying it without coming off as harsh or trollish. I find it ironic we would call someone a troll on an autism forum despite how different our communication is and it can make us come off as cold or rude without it being our intent.

as far as stims go, this one it tricky.
there is nothing wrong with playing with yourself as an act, actually, there are physical and mental health benefits to doing that, especially if you are single.

however, in modern society, this act is something private, you are not supposed to do this where others can see it.
you mentioned the leather cord, this is a pretty decent alternative.


i have done things like you mention as well, as a kid, before i was aware of what i was actually doing. now that i am adult (well, legally), i have stopped doing so in public; i moved on to other, more acceptable stims

Yes i had unfortunately, i had this problem since i was kid. Now i'm porn addict sex maniac:-)

I always why so many aspies are gay, hyper-sexual or asexual.

I always wanted to be asexual and be free of any sex thoughts. I sometime i want cut my b and not have this problem

Listen my advise and stay away pornography.

Honestly, I did that since I was around seven and I didn't know what I was even doing since I was much older. I guess it wasn't as noticeable, but you can't be the only one ever with that problem. Plus it's not a bad thing as such... Depending on how far you go...
I'm now thinking what you're doing is just a bad tic. So you should be able to get rid of it like any other tics if you really believe in it. Don't let other people influence your decisions.

it's a completely natural thing.i was 11 or 12 when i started,with a stuffed curious george & to the movie about tigers.i don't know if i felt any arousal then.

I used to do something similar to this when I was younger. Details are too embarrassing, but I actually ended up identified as "that kid who -" It was what people knew me by. Defining characteristic. Maybe I thought I was below the radar, but obviously not. When someone said this identification to my face, what everyone had previously only been saying behind my back, that pretty much snapped me out of doing this in public. I was made aware of it and embarrassed enough to become conscious of the behaviour and stop doing it.
And I think you're absolutely right about different presentations of autism here. Someone who is severely autistic is going to be excused doing inappropriate things much more easily than someone who blends in better and appears "normal," or their autism isn't as noticeable to others.
I once worked with people with both severe intellectual and physical disabilities, for example. Profoundly disabled people who required 24 hour complete care. These people could completely get away with playing with themselves, biting themselves, screaming, hitting, thrashing, pissing themselves, etc. Because people understood that this behaviour wasn't indecent on purpose - they were disabled. They could not control these behaviours.
I'm not saying someone as intellectually capable as you should not try to curtail his more inappropriate behaviour, only that if someone is obviously disabled, concessions are absolutely made by the general public around behaviour.
There is no way you'd end up with a criminal record for bad behaviour as a severely autistic person. It's like saying one of these intellectually disabled people would end up with a criminal record for punching people (which they did).
The same conditions do not apply to disabled people as they do others without disabilities.

Not anymore. I'm Catholic so when I learned the line "he who looks at a woman lustfully commits adultery in his heart." But I just messed up after a week streak a few hours ago.

I mastrubated in public before during testing once I got sent to the ese office for doing it but I didn't get in trouble for doing it just embarrassed.

I once did it my parents van, and I didn't know I was masturbating at the time, and I don't think anyone saw me do it, but I was nervous. Later on I found out what masturbating was, and I wished that I hadn't of done that. But now I am over that fear. I always do it in my room now.

-LegoMaster2149 (Written on October 18, 2017)

Yep I got caught masturbating at high school. Got spread around the school. The teacher saw me. I'm not too sure what it was all about to be honest. It may have been stimming to begin with but then it turned into this whole attention seeking thing. It was very confusing as I didn't know what I was doing and why I was doing it pubically as well as privately. I really wouldn't advise to do it pubically as it got me into a heck lot of bother with bullying and staff from school. Kids at that age don't like to admit they're doing it, even though it's totally healthy and normal.

first i take my shirt & shorts off,then i start touching my body all over,imagining myself in my underwear pressing my body up against a giant teddy bear while grabbing it's ass.i usually sleep in my underwear,to envision what i plan to do with the bear in my fantasy,based on how horny i feel.my alternative to physical intimacy with a NT Woman Or Girl my age that is chubby,based on her negative perception of how severely awkward i appear to her,the same way other male aspies do