Do you always feel like your immature?

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I have always felt that I was either too immature or that I was more immature that normal. I am 19 and have friends that are 14,15,16,18 and one that is 19 but I also have friends that are in their 30's and 40's too. I feel more comfortable talking to my older and younger friends than my friends that is my age.

Ive never gotten along with people my own age.

I usually like younger or older than me. I pefer older people now. Most of my friends are way older than me.

Sometimes I wish i was still at school, other times I hate looking young, so it flips. I do think I'm immature compared to most other 17/18 year olds, but intellectually I tend to think a bit more deeply than most people my age.

I feel immature and I definately do act under my age And I certainly don't look as old as the girls in my grade I don't wear ANY type of make up AT ALL I don't care for it I get along with children and older people better than I do my own peers. But hey I have fun acting immature

~Phantom~

i get on with people who are younger than me best, and im still a child at heart and no one cares

In some ways, I can feel very immature. In others, I feel much more mature than some. It varies.

Oh yeah -deffinitly immature. Some days I'm eight, others I'm fifteen. Actually I read that Aspies emotionally 5 years younger.

Hmmm, confusing.

When I was younger (12-13), I used to feel a lot behind everyone else, listening while they rambled on about makeup/clothes lalala while I was still doing the things I did when I was 10.

Then once I got to 15/16, it completely switched over. Now I feel I'm a few years ahead of my peers in maturity and sometimes their slightly childish approaches in life really annoys me. Someone once said I had the mind of 80 year-old...which I wasn't sure to be insulted by or pleased XD

Yup. I cannot think of myself past the age of 12-15. It's like I'm stuck and my clock just stopped.

I think in an aspies brain there is sometimes a switch (in a metaphorical sense of course XD) that can be tuned to the far right, far left and anywhere inbetween. I think of this switch as your maturity level, one that can change but also can stay the same for X amount of years. You can't change it, its although your brain grows little hand and changes it when it wants too - so make the most of it if you can!
My maturity level is quite low - when I was 11 I played with one peer my own age and the rest were all about 5-6 which many people discouraged. However by doing that I have learned alot about the childs mind through simply sociallizing and playing with them, and have used my skills to volenteer at a a single parents social group where I help with the kids and talk to them. Many have come from abusive backgrounds and they tell me stuff they never could tell the adults. I'm trusted as i socialize like them, but still can think (rarely ) like and adult. Its great. ^-^
Its my peers that get me - there seems to be a lot of unspoken rules that I simply can't keep up with , and I've been told i ask 'stupid' questions all the time when I genually don't know the answer. anyone else like this?

Well .. i feel like that .. Kinda .. Cept for that my friends are older than me .. from 15 to 25 .. .. But me .. well .. still like a 5 year old .. Sometimes .. But i'm happy for that, then i have so much more fun xD

Yeah totally! I've always felt that for most of my teenage years up until about age 18 I had the maturity of about a 12 to 13 year old. My friends have always been younger. Even today (i am 20) and i mentioned my age to someone and she was shocked cause she'd thought I was about 16/17.

And about the gender thing - yes! Most of my friends are guys, and I've always thought that I have more of a "guy mentality" as guys are more straight forward and say what they mean. But I think that's just an aspie characteristic as well, cause girls never say what they mean, and aspies don't read hidden meanings and body language well. Although your mentality doesn't necessarily determine your sexuality (I'm straight).

I think that being an aspie could easily be (according to mentality not sexual preference) described as a whole new gender in itself .

im probably immature but nobody has ever told me

I'm kind of older and younger at the same time, in different ways. I like a lot of the same stuff as my ten year old brother, I occasionally still play with dolls, and I like kids TV. I don't have many friends, but most are my age or older. I am 14, and my boyfriend just turned 15, and he is the same way as me. He plays with toys like silly putty, but other then that is extremely mature for his age. He's getting a job and acts like a dad around young kids.