Do you tell people that you have asperger?

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I was talking with some of my NT friends @ a sleep over the other night, and ANTM and Heather came up and one of my friends said that she was so angry that she got kicked off and she went on a rant about it for almost 20 minutes. She felt they did not understand her disability and that if they let the girl who was afraid of heights stay, then they should have given Heather another chance as well. When I told her that I actually have the same thing as Heather, then she thought that was really cool, and we basically had an impromptu question and answer session about AS.

Later that night (or I suppose morning... around 3 am I think) another one of my friends told me that her mother wanted to get her tested for AS, because she feels that she fits alot of the criteria for diagnosis. I thought that was awesome that one of my buddies could have it too.

Personally I think she may, because, first off, shes an amazing artist and a very inntelligent student, but she just hates to do homework. That reminds me of myself because I hate HW, but like learning at school. Also she has speciallized intrests (J-rock, Celtic hardcore music, Spanish Techno, German metal, and a bunch of other genres of music from all sorts of countries. She can write in alot of different languages including Japanese, Arabic, and she loves to learn Spanish, german and some French. She told me she was obsessed with Hyroglyphics when she was younger, and still remember some stuff about them (Phonetic Pronunciation for names etc...) Also she has trouble with eye-contact and starting conversations with peole she doesn't know and just dealing with people in general. She also gets along better with her guy cousins than with her girl cousins because she just relates to them more.

I just excited that she could have the same thing as me...

People can suprise you, many are more accepting than you may think.

& this is the reason I don't tell anyone outside of my family I have AS (except my bf which he's very accepting of me) because other people in this world are mean & will treat me differently & try to get over me cuz of my disablity

My immediate family as well as a few close friends. My dad and Bro thinks i'm just making an excuse. :/

No. People I know don't give a s**t one way or the other.

I've been thinking, maybe I should just explain asperger like this:

My body gives me different signals then your body. like someone who is seeing different colours then there really are. When I make eye contact, it feels bad, when I start talking about something that really intrests me I don't get a singal that you might be bored. etc etc etc.

I think this will make sure they understand I am not a different person, I do not have a different personality. I simply have aspergers

no, never
its my secret curse

Only when it's important...

I only tell my friends, because I know they understand me, and know not to really judge me. But I don't tell complete strangers...given a choice, I'd probably not tell them...

Ive only told a few people so far and my immediate family knows. Ones that I know wont hold it against me. I actually dont know who will hold it againstme and who wont. But I told one of my friends and she acted like "well thats not excuse for how you act" which was personally a bit stabbing but technically shes not treating me differently.

And this is a friend???

I don't exactly try to hide my AS (as if I could!), but I don't exactly run around waving a blinking neon sign, either. Whenever I land a new job, I am certain to make sure my supervisor knows, so that they can be aware of why their usual techniques for managing employees don't work. (Well, actually, the reason they didn't work at my last position was because the company was used to hiring kids straight out of high school - somehow when you're over 40, being allowed to wear the jersey of your favorite sports team to work just doesn't seem like that big a deal any more. Besides, I don't have a Caprica Buccaneers jersey yet...) As for family members, that's who diagnosed me first.

I only tell people I trust about it.

I tell people when I feel like it.. I don't go gallivanting around saying "Hello World I have Asperger's Yeeeee" It's on some of my social networking sites myspace, facebook etc, but it's somewhat hidden. Most of the people on there I know fairly well (As I don't accept friend requests from people I don't know in person) Needless to say, I have a small "friend" list.. Most don't bother to read that far though as I believe they're too lazy to do all that reading. Some of my friends were surprised in the past when i told them, and then I told them it was on my profile lol

People that I've known for quite sometime weren't surprised when I was diagnosed. In fact, more than one had told me I have many symptoms just like this disorder here "Asperger's" and i blew it off.. Until I was diagnosed a year later lol.

Truth is, I never know when it's appropriate or not to tell people, sometimes I'd like people to be properly informed and sometimes not.. It's confusing for me

I have no problem telling people but it isn't like I'm gonna scream from my rooftop "HEY WORLD! I HAVE ASPERGER SYNDROME!" It's like one of those don't ask don't tell things, but no one asks, so it's all good. I mean if someone did ask I'd have no problem telling them, because it's not like I'm ashamed of being aspergers.

I guess it's kind of what the majority of the people said in this topic. But you know.

I don't hide the fact, but I don't go around annoucing it randomly.

No, that's mum's job.

I used to deny the fact that I have ADHD, so no. I told my closest friends about my symptoms, but I don't think I could tell others unless they are really close to me.