How many Aspies never got asked to Prom?

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Prom for my school starts in about 15 minutes from this posting, but I don't plan on doing it until senior year. In my opinion, any dance, especially prom, is a waste of my time in sophomore and junior years. At least senior year, it's near graduation, so a little fun is always welcome. But first, I need to find a girl who enjoys my interests (mostly collecting old things) and who enjoys old things in their life. Chances of that are 1 in 10,000 probably, but we'll see.
If I ran prom, the NTs would be throwing tomatoes at me because of all the 70s disco and 80s party music/slow songs I would be playing. I am not twerking to rap, or dubstep. Everyone can dance to a vintage Madonna song, like Holiday, probably with a little practice, as good as they can dance to Jay-Z or Kanye.
Maybe I'll shout out a few requests for some slow love songs from the 1980s. I wonder how many teens would dance to "I've Had the Time of My Life," however.

Yes take it from me to wait until your senior year. You're lucky and I wish I still had as much time as you, Only about 1 week for the first and the other one's at the end of the year...that's it...

And I agree I hate all the modern music. I do like electronic music but not the kind on the radio most of that is pure sh*t.

Rap I hate...

Some '70s/'80s party hits? That's not a bad idea at all/I would definitely agree with that.

Some nice smooth funk/disco like Between The Sheets for the slow loving dances: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=glhdcJ7K3XM

How many proms to you guys even have? O_o Here, we only have one at the end of out senior year.

Friends who went to prom told me there was WAY TOO MUCH rap music, the DJ maybe played only one or two slow songs, and too many people were inappropriately twerking. Gross. Now I'm really glad I wasn't there.

I wouldn't mind a playlist that is full of Madonna, Bruce Springsteen, John Mellencamp, Wang Chung, Prince, some slow songs from Phil Collins, Whitney Houston, maybe some of the 90s boy bands like Backstreet Boys/NSYNC (yes, there are teens who still like 90s boys bands...not all enjoy just One Direction, puke), Bee Gees, and maybe a few classic Michael Jackson songs. Maybe throw in some "retro-sounding" new songs like Blurred Lines or Uptown Funk, to boost crowd morale. However, I'd probably stick away from Barry White or most of the smooth R&B. I live in an area that is a mixed white/Hispanic population, with only a HANDFUL, maybe, African Americans. NTs would be throwing tomatoes at me for playing "Can't Get Enough of Your Love, Babe." I'd stick to the 80s party stuff like Madonna's "Holiday," "Vogue," Wang Chung "Everybody Have Fun Tonight," Bruce Springsteen "Pink Cadiliac," "Dancing in the Dark," etc. Had the population of African-Americans been much higher, then the smooth R&B would have come into play.

Haha, depends on the school.

At my old school it was one at the end of your senior year, but you could actually invite other people from younger grades anyway to go with you (as in, one person as your date). An older friend got to go in the 11th and 12th grade.

At my new school there are two different kinds.

The 'senior ball' which is more of a dance/disco than a formal prom.

The Senior ball is grades 10 to 12.

The official prom is end of 12th grade...

So yeah I get to be able to experience two dances however I am a little upset/disappointed because I really do have no one to go to this senior ball which is very soon...

I still wanted to go no matter what and perhaps I still will - I'll just have to go with a friend...

I don't want to be that guy who sits in the corner all alone...I feel like I will be that guy if I go but I will do anything to avoid it...

Wait - huh?! I skipped junior prom because I decided to. For that matter my school that year was orders of magnitude too small to have dances. I suppose nobody asked me (who knows, perhaps I missed that ) but it's not as if prom crossed my mind.

I went to my senior prom with my sort-of boyfriend and best friend. I wasn't really "asked" though. My friend mentioned that she was thinking about going and I asked my boyfriend if he would drive us. We didn't usually go to dances though.

Prom was weird. People were dressed up very fancy-like but they removed their shoes and danced by hopping around the floor. At one point they all linked arms and swayed around like a giant jellyfish. Also, there were balloons scattered around the floor that posed a bit of a tripping hazard. They had tables set out with lots of fancy looking food but they weren't eating it because apparently they were planning to go to expensive restaurants afterward. I had had my wisdom teeth removed a little before and couldn't eat solid food so I had to pass on the refreshments. My best friend ate some but managed to get some of it down her dress. The three of us mostly sat in a corner and watched. I usually didn't pay much attention to my classmates and it was kind of fascinating and baffling to observe their behavior.

*golf clap*

I don't really care about prom, or the vast majority of school events. I either have stuff to do with my mom during the time I'm not in school, staying home, or spending time with my friends outside of school. Besides, if you are a freshman or sophomore you have to be cordially invited by a junior or senior, so um yeah none given.

My high school only had senior prom, though underclassmen were allowed if asked by senior.

I didn't go due to the expense nor did most of the people I knew either for the same reason.

Tickets were literally $100 in 2004 and you had to have proper dress (Tux for guys, fancy dress for girls).
Everything added together was over $200+ for singles and $300+ for a couple.

Not worth it to me!

So, if it's your senior year prom and no one asks you and you're not with someone, you just don't go...?

You can if you want to, but I think it's a stupid idea tbh.

Unless you have some good friends there you know would want to hang out with you, you'll probably end up being alone the whole night. The lonely person who sits or stands in the corner looking miserable. This is what I NEVER want to be.

Even if you are an aspie who keeps to themselves and you think you could still have a fun time by yourself I don't see why you would want to. There really isn't much you can do alone and it would get boring quickly.

there was one at my last school but tbh i don't think i really wanted to be seen with anyone there. theres one at my current school which is a public school but i think i've more or less ruined any relationship i could have had but i guess thats all part of growing up.

(tbh depending on how odd your interests are you might not be able to.)

i didn't get asked (officially, this year), but i asked someone and she didn't say no. which i guess is good enough.

remember that nobody is forcing you to go.

Outsider put it better than i probably can: school dances and prom in particular tend to be miserable if you're not with anybody, be it a date, friend, group of friends, or friends with dates. actually...i'm going to go out on a limb here and say that even if you've got people to go wiht, there's the chance that it's gonna suck. i mean all the proms and dances i've ever know played rap, top 40 and "teach me how to dougie" in between the two slow dances, and my date and i just aren't the dancing type, even when there is music that can be danced to. so, if you decide to do anything after the prom, try and pick something you're sure you're gonna enjoy...whatever it is. so you don't go home (as) disappointed.

my afterprom was going to her house, along with her friend (her date had to leave early) and watching pulp fiction. it was great, got home at 3 and there were cuddles.

aside from the awful music, and the eiffel tower (paris themed) which collapsed in the middle of the event as if it were made of cereal-box cardboard, there was a room where one could play mario kart or DDR, too bad the former was always being used and the latter kept breaking. but it was really nice to have anyway.

just...if you think you're not going to enjoy it, which has a big chance and if you know you;re gougn to go alone, just don't go. save yourself some money, time, sanity, and if you have any regrets, i hope they pass...

technically no.