WHAT "sexual urges"?!

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In response to the first post, because I'm too lazy to read the rest:


Blahhhhhh amen! That's p. much my life.

I know you are not a freak. I had sexual urges too, but I also had sexual curiosity. I wanted to look up sex on the internet to see how we people reproduce but it took me to porn instead ( and afterward I decided to not be like other guys and not be obsessed with wanting to have sex), So you are not alone (and I'm a guy).

I started thinking about girls in Kindergarten.

I know how you feel. I remember being eleven and being seen as an absolute freak because I wasn't yet into boys. I got so sick of being seen as this horrible abnormality because I wasn't interested in having a boyfriend.

My urges also hit me around 16.

Having little or no sexual interest is perfectly fine. Your sexual identity is something you are figuring out and not everyone is on the same track. Many people have varying levels of sexual interest and it changes throughout your life. In fact, abstinence from sex at your age is a very healthy thing to do as it lowers your risk of contracting a STD or increasing your risk of cancer.

I'm 18.
I was a pretty late bloomer, like, 17
My reaction to sex education at 11 was CLASSIC - to parents - "You did WHAT!?" You see I thought you just fall pregnant randomly until that age.
I still think sex is 'icky' and disgusting. I watched a 4 programme Sex Education show on C4 in the UK a week ago and went all girly and childish about being shown naked men (though I have seen a couple) and close ups of reproductive organs.
But I believe I do have sexual urges sometimes but feel guilty about them.

yes, I am an 18 yr old male and I do have sexual urges, I am fine with them, and since I lack the societal ew factor, I finally figured out that I can like boys and girls!

one thing i will never understand me being a dude is us guys and boobs what the hell is up with that, sure i get it but i really do not know why, sure they feel nice but what the hell why do i fantasize over something like them makes no sense to me is it just hormones or something?

Last edited by black_legion on 14 Apr 2009, 5:07 am, edited 1 time in total.

don't ask me, I prefer the boys!

I feel the same way about that as a male. I haven't had the slightest hint of a girl friend and everyone seems to believe that in order to validate myself as "straight", that I need to have had a girl friend. Personally, I have little to no need for that much utter confusion. I do have the urge to have one, but I'm uncertain that it is a "genuine" feeling, and more of a desire to gain the respect of my peers. That, to me, is the most pathetic reason I can come up with to make an attempt, so I don't chase skirts like every other male I know. I'm kind of rambling, but I need to get this off my chest.

The other problem is that I'm a self-proclaimed failure at understanding women, and as such I come off as insensitive and cruel. I don't understand the reasons they go about expressing the feelings that they do. Everything, no matter how small to me, is of dire, life-or-death importance, even something so trivial as hearing about some boy they like looking at them. Anyway, I have become more interested in the opposite sex, but in a very uncomfortable and irregular way, as I'm a bit shy as far as bothering people go.

Well, I've gone off in about three directions at once, so I'll stop there. Thanks for listening and letting me clear my chest.

I think I'm pretty "normal" in this area. Though honestly I don't understand how you could not be attracted to someone, but if you're not that's fine.
Most people have sexual urges because of the instinctual desire to reproduce. People have just turned reproduction into something it is not. Humans have turned sex into something that you have to do, like you're not cool if you don't screw. I think that's idiotic.

I do not crave sex but want a relationship, BUT I do have sexual urges, as I am sure mosy guys will tell you, you have a strong feeling/ urge for the pleasure/relaxation sexual release brings be it in your own hand or with a lover.

Great message. I feel exactly the same and wish society would just chill out, and accept people as they are.

With all the shouts of "homosexuality is okay", people are still really messed up about it; I'd like to shake these people and ask them "if it's so okay, can you please just accept that I'm not, if I tell you I'm not?"

well, the thing is, a lot of people are in the closet and as for the flirting, take it as a compliment, that means even the boys want you!

huh? flirting? Who mentioned flirting?

thought you did