Feel that you will never get a gf or a bf?

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You ask them "Are you for Real?"

If I ever got a gf it would be because she made the first move or I stopped being lazy and got rid of my acne, monotone voice, and social awkwardness, which would give me the confidence to make a move.

I'll be waiting...

I had one, we didn't understand each other, and this resulted in a LOT of jealousy (never found out whether it was justified) on my behalf. Then I stopped overanalyzing and got sad instead of angry when things went wrong. Now we're just friends. I want to date someone but I get really impatient if I'm bored. I wouldn't really mind online dating. I've heard so much though about when someone you love online suddenly stops talking.

Nope, never have, and going into college did not seem to increase my prospects. There's always a little voice in my head saying I never will, and I have a sort of selfish desire to extinguish it which has always been there. I do know that I wasted at least one and perhaps more than one opportunity that I didn't have the cop-on at the time to see, but that's all part of the experience isn't it. At least I can say I have plenty of experience with getting rejected and screwing things up.

Pretty sure that's not how you do it.

I feel like that. My ex is impossible. I miss and still love him but he keeps changing his personality towards me. I have no one else to look for since no guy looks at me as more than a werid chick or at most close friend. I've been single for almost a year. My freshman year, I had a lot of people who liked me, now it's like I lost whatever I had then to keep people looking my way. Everyone around me is getting someone but me *sigh*

I feel that way too but I guess why I haven't tried to ask boys I like out is because I appearently have a fear of abandonment so I guess when people try to get close to me I get scared and push them away but the people who talked with me about it said that a way to combat that is to let them comfort me which scares me but it's get better it doesn't make me feel uncomfortable anymore.

I increasingly feel it's just not worth the trouble; I don't need the drama, and don't really expect anything from dating and romance anymore. My recent experiences are: a girl was flirting with me, and then decided I was not good enough to introduce to her friends; a girl I really like rejected me when I asked her out, and it cost me a good friendship; another girl I like is moving to the other side of the world soon, so no point in asking her out; of the few remaining single girls I know here (single girls in this town are almost non-existent), one of them seems to loathe me for absolutely no reason and my very existence seems to offend her, and another is a slut who however would never degrade herself to dating me.
In any case, here I'm at the bottom of the barrel - a Third World passport, a non-white, a student, an introvert. Yes, I have things to offer, like fidelity, commitment, caring; but these are neither flashy nor in fashion. I have no intention of staying here for good, and what British girl would follow me back to the Third World?
A funny thing, until fairly recently I viewed romantic love as the only type of connection, apart from parent-child, worth pursuing at all; friendship seemed worthless. Now, I value friendship and, because I either know for a fact I would be rejected or I'm not interested, I don't know anybody there would be a point in asking out.

I feel the same waty because I am a guy and I feel weird when talking to girls because I am shy and I want to watch my tounge dont want say anything brash or rude that because I dont want to come off creepy. So I maybe a man but it understand your trouble and how you feel.I feel much better when talking to guys but I am definatly not gay because other men don't do it for me. and I am not sure about bi.

I do feel that currently. I was with a girl for about 8 months and well, it ended horribly. I somewhat can't move on from it either.

I have a crush on a guy, but I don't think he likes me back...I've already have had many unsuccessful crushes...so I'm not all that hopeful...

Have you tried talking to him to get to know him personally? I mean even if you feel a crush is unsuccessful it still helps to give it a try?

sorry to hear that, I know all too well how that feels.

I haven't had a crush. . .well, ever. I am dying to fall in love.

I am a seriously lonely human being. I crave conversation and touch in the lip-biting,
tender way that only the truly lonely can.

I tell myself and everyone else (including WP) that I'm asexual*. I read a lot of Nietzsche. If I did not half-deny the power of love, it would indeed be too much to bear, this loneliness.

*alas, no. I am of the earth, sadly. I like girls.

What if it is unrequited love? Would you really want that kind of pain to cling to you and haunt you? People lose so much for "love", that it becomes questionable whether a person would wish this on any other much less themselves.


No surprise. I would imagine that a lot of people with AS ultimately suffer suffer the fate of Tantalus, to see the delicious fruit, and even to see others consume it, but never to have any ourselves.

Nietzsche? I like Nietzsche. Even though I have never read the context of the following quote:

"God is dead. God remains dead. And we have killed him. How shall we comfort ourselves, the murderers of all murderers? What was holiest and mightiest of all that the world has yet owned has bled to death under our knives: who will wipe this blood off us? What water is there for us to clean ourselves? What festivals of atonement, what sacred games shall we have to invent? Is not the greatness of this deed too great for us? Must we ourselves not become gods simply to appear worthy of it?"

I find the quote to be awesome. Loneliness is a bitter pill to swallow though, to know that there is a path, and perhaps a difficult one, and to know that it is your path and yours alone is just difficult to swallow. To know that everyone else has kin, while you are cursed to roam the earth like a vagabond is depressing.

Yes because I never wanted one and never will. I don't need no stinkin' man.