Do you have a social life at all?

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Outside of class it is pretty average, got my mates and stuff. Inside of class I am a loner except for one person which is pretty good cus I like my personal space. I also socialise online a lot but I know that isn't what you mean.

No, I don't. I am homeschooling, going to school only to exams, I go to private lessons (violin, cello) and I have only one friend near me, only in different city 15 minutes away with a car (who I often see and we are together for the whole day) and one who lives two hours away (If you drive a car), so we are not often together.
I also go to therapies (to an ASD specialist once a year - just for a visit, then once in two weeks I go to Theta healing therapy and once in two weeks to psychologist).
All I go from the house is to go to this activities and when I walk a dog (I am usually with my Mom or alone).
This is all about my social life.
Almost nothing.

No and living in the middle of nowhere without the abilty to drive doesn't help at all.

I used to. I had a social life in middle school, but since I go to a different high school than my middle school friends, the only social life I have consists of 4 things:
1. Chatting online
2. Visiting with my mom and her friends
3. Visits from my friends Josie and Katelyn
4. Running into middle school friends on walks
And that's about it.

I have ZERO social life. I hate it. I'd love to have friends but at the same time, I feel pretty damned awful about myself around most people.

In high school I had a circle of friends who I saw every day in school, but never outside of class. So... kinda? I'll let you all make your own opinions on that.

Of course, now that I'm in college, I have no friends at all and I'm sad and lonely.

Nope, except for the organized group activities I attend. I don't feel comfortable around teens my age... there's too much nonverbal communication involved. I'm fine with not having any personal connections with people, though.

I don't have a social life at all, only acquaintances at school. It is horrible. I especially hate it when I have to write about what I did over the weekend in English class.

Well, here high school and "non-high" school normally happen in the same "school" so it is normal to be part of a class since 5 years old until 17... In those circumstances I think we all were 'forced' to be friends with at least someone in the class...

I had some sort of social life until that ended and I entered college with no member of my class going to the same college as I did. From then my social life is 0. I lost all contact with high school people intentionally due to academic shame due to constant delays at college...

If you are interested in being more social/having a gf ( under your own standards, not NTs') I think teen years are probably the best time to start. It is much harder 'to start' during adulthood. Right now I am not even sure I am interested in such things... I am 25. Teen years should be a better time to start because besides appearances, teenage NTs are almost as clueless as non-NT teenages regarding social skills. It will be hard, but probably easier than waiting for when you are older and people on your age have become complete [s]con[/s]social artists...

I realize, more and more, that the social life I have "built"... or, perhaps more accurately, the social life that has built around me, is somewhat contrived and forced. I used to look at how many hours people spent socializing with me as a rough estimate to the magnitude of my social life, but that seems to work less and less. Sure, I have spent more hours this semester hanging out with a more diverse array of people than ever in my life. But, it seems everyone I know is in a relationship with someone, and that they bring their boyfriends and girlfriends with them just makes me feel more the separated from them. Of course, what's so bizarre about this is not so long ago I was set on never being in another relationship, but that is an entirely different story not suited for this thread.

No, if I do then I have very little of one

Not really. I do socialize every now and then, but I've kind of started to become seperated from my friends a bit (both physically and psychologically) which means that I'll have to socialize with new people. I've tried to take some steps to becoming more social, but it seems nearly impossible at my school. I've been bombarded with homework and haven't got much of a chance to hang out with people. Also, during lunch, all of the people that I could be eating lunch with either talk about one subject non-stop (way more often than Aspies would) or have such different preferences from mine that I have trouble relating to them. It's kind of been a sh***y year so far.

I really hope that this will change soon.

I like to think I have a small social life in school. I've always been described by teachers etc as having a "small circle of friends", and I'm perfectly happy and comfortable with that. I never socialise with them outside of school though.

My social life is virtually non-existant. I only have one friend who I see outside of school and he's basically a relic from primary school; if I only met him now we probably would never become friends. I have two other people I would call friends, although I don't 'hang out' with them, and they aren't friends with each other so we can't be a group. Nonetheless I'm not particularly bothered.

I have one good friend, and we do mostly everything together at school. At home I just sit inside and work or read at the computer.

I'm not arsed to socialise lately. I prefer to stay at home.