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16 May 2008, 2:55 pm

I'm aspie and when I was younger, I always prefered to socialise with people who were a few years younger than me, when I was about 13 my friends were all about 10-11. I started puberty at about 15 and by then most people were well into it and I looked about 10, i'm 18 and at uni now but people always say that I act like a little kid, I look about 15.

Just want to know if anyone else was like this?

Also, do you feel like you are your own gender? I know i'm a male and it's not at all like I think i'm a women but I always feel like i'm just different to the other males that I know.. it's weird



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16 May 2008, 3:00 pm

I can relate to the immature part. Most of my friends now are 5-6 years younger. Some quite a bit younger than that even. Granted that isn't such a big deal at my age, but it has been that way for a long time. As for the gender-role issue, because that is where I think you are going with that, I can relate to an extent. I was highly resistant to any attempts by my father to "make a man out of me" and never cared much for "typical male" activities like sports or acting tough.


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16 May 2008, 3:01 pm

Welcome to WP!


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16 May 2008, 3:40 pm

Yeah, I feel like that a lot. I get along best with people who are younger than me. Sometime I'm more 'immature' than other people (e.g. not into makeup, still liking pokemon, digimon etc..) but in a lot of ways I act more mature (I don't get into petty bickering and bitching like a lot of girls seem to do, and I don't feel the need to go to the bathroom in groups of 4).

I also feel (and usually think of myself) as gender neutral or male. I'm not a lesbian, or even bi for that matter- I just don't like being made 'feminine' by peoples' attitudes or by clothes etc.

edit: apologies- I just saw that this is in the 'adolescent' forum... I only saw it on the main page beforehand



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16 May 2008, 5:37 pm

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Yeah, I feel like that a lot. I get along best with people who are younger than me. Sometime I'm more 'immature' than other people (e.g. not into makeup, still liking pokemon, digimon etc..) but in a lot of ways I act more mature (I don't get into petty bickering and bitching like a lot of girls seem to do, and I don't feel the need to go to the bathroom in groups of 4).

I also feel (and usually think of myself) as gender neutral or male. I'm not a lesbian, or even bi for that matter- I just don't like being made 'feminine' by peoples' attitudes or by clothes etc.

edit: apologies- I just saw that this is in the 'adolescent' forum... I only saw it on the main page beforehand


Lol. Don't feel bad. I didn't realize it either until I just read your post. D'oh! :wall:


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16 May 2008, 7:26 pm

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I can relate to the immature part. Most of my friends now are 5-6 years younger. Some quite a bit younger than that even. Granted that isn't such a big deal at my age, but it has been that way for a long time. As for the gender-role issue, because that is where I think you are going with that, I can relate to an extent. I was highly resistant to any attempts by my father to "make a man out of me" and never cared much for "typical male" activities like sports or acting tough.


If your dad can't make a man out of you, who can? He was trying to teach you some valuable stuff. Maybe not sports, maybe not "acting tough." How about being tough? Every man needs to have some toughness in him, or he's not a man but a little boy. :roll:



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16 May 2008, 8:38 pm

I am a bit immature as far as my behavior goes-I still don't eat with a fork.


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16 May 2008, 9:59 pm

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LoveableNerd wrote:
I can relate to the immature part. Most of my friends now are 5-6 years younger. Some quite a bit younger than that even. Granted that isn't such a big deal at my age, but it has been that way for a long time. As for the gender-role issue, because that is where I think you are going with that, I can relate to an extent. I was highly resistant to any attempts by my father to "make a man out of me" and never cared much for "typical male" activities like sports or acting tough.


If your dad can't make a man out of you, who can? He was trying to teach you some valuable stuff. Maybe not sports, maybe not "acting tough." How about being tough? Every man needs to have some toughness in him, or he's not a man but a little boy. :roll:


Sure, but try telling that to a headstrong aspie kid who didn't want to hear it. lol.


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16 May 2008, 10:32 pm

I did, but do you not want to hear it?



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16 May 2008, 10:59 pm

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I did, but do you not want to hear it?


I heard you. But this is the adult me... the kid me didn't listen back in the day.


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17 May 2008, 5:45 am

A lot of that "being a man" IMO is socilogical, not biological. Some of it is biological, a man is built more muscular than a women and should have some toughness in him so that he can defend his family from predators.

My dad never did all that macho man crap with me, he's not like that himself.



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17 May 2008, 8:12 am

No, I've always felt more mature than others my age.
Ever since I was born, i've gotten on with and related to adults more than people of my own age. I seem to find it harder to converse with teens than I do with other adults. Adults are generally interested in what I have to say, where as teens don't even understand what I say! 8O

But in regards to my behavior in total, I think it's still a bit immature. I don't like wearing make up, jump up and down when I'm happy/excited, laugh at silly things and am very emotionally sensitive and often cry if someone merely puts me down slightly. I still can't use a knife and fork properly.


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17 May 2008, 9:01 am

juppo wrote:
A lot of that "being a man" IMO is socilogical, not biological. Some of it is biological, a man is built more muscular than a women and should have some toughness in him so that he can defend his family from predators.

My dad never did all that macho man crap with me, he's not like that himself.


The really important part of being a man is character. Biology alone doesn't make a man. Ultimately it's who he is. A father's job is to impart to his son how to be a man. The physical stuff takes care of itself, but if the father let his son remain a child in a man's body, that is truly a cause for woe and grief. A father should never fail his son in that manner.



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21 May 2008, 3:16 am

yes, i'm immature & i like it that way all my friends are younger than me


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26 May 2008, 11:58 pm

Brittany2907 wrote:
No, I've always felt more mature than others my age.
Ever since I was born, i've gotten on with and related to adults more than people of my own age. I seem to find it harder to converse with teens than I do with other adults. Adults are generally interested in what I have to say, where as teens don't even understand what I say! 8O

But in regards to my behavior in total, I think it's still a bit immature. I don't like wearing make up, jump up and down when I'm happy/excited, laugh at silly things and am very emotionally sensitive and often cry if someone merely puts me down slightly. I still can't use a knife and fork properly.


I'm similar. id rather be around over-40's then people my age. maybe thats because people my age are more intimidating to me though :D