Embarrassment - First Post :)

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Hello everyone! I am new to this community, but I wanted to discuss something rather quickly after me joining... embarrassments.

What embarrasses me? Hm.

1. Saying "How are you?"
2. Saying "Good-morning, good afternoon, good night."
3. Hugging.
4. Shaking hands.
5. Kissing
6. Holding hands.
7. Saying "I love you."

Are these common things to be embarrassed of? Is there anyway to get around them? Thanks.

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I think 7 is fairly common. Doubt the others are particularly embarrassing for most people. To get around them, think about why those things in particular embarrass you and perhaps post it so others can give you some ideas.

I'm not too sure really. I've always had a fear of showing emotion, I.E Smiling, etc.

Well you kind of need to work out why you have this fear, before you can fix it.

I never got accustomed to being kissed or having to kiss someone unless it's my girlfriend.

I do not think people are usually embarrassed by these, at least I have never heard of somebody who is. Except for me. And you, obviously. I do not know your reasons for being embarrassed, but here are mine :

1. and 2. I am afraid of annoying the person. I had big issues not to interrupt talks when I was a kid, and since then, I do not dare to disobey my Mom's old order of "talking only when I am talked to". Plus, I have learnt through the years that being excessively polite, as apologizing, makes you look vulnerable. To me, being embarrassed of saying them is a way not to accept to look vulnerable, and to enable people to get a grip on you. But I have to admit it looks utterly rude.

3. 5. 6. As a hypersensitive person, I rather hate those affection signs. I do not understand them, so I am used to looking at them with curious, even "scientifical" eyes. When someone hugs me, I cannot help thinking "what am I doing here? and does it look funny?". The best example I experienced is attending a students party in a bar. After a few minutes, I look at them all, talking, dancing, drinking, as if I was watching insects, I have to say and think "what on earth am I doing in here, with these people?".

4. Again, hypersensitive problem. And I never know what I have to express in a handshake. So I usually crush the other person's hand to show determination, I think it is more or less the effect. Or is it? ^^

And 7. A classic. Everyone is embarrassed when saying it. Whether you use it as a mechanical expression, saying it to anyone, but not knowing the different levels of love and affection... whether you keep it for one person in your life, and completely lay your heart and life with it in their hands. Indeed, you can be embarrassed in both situations, the first one has no real meaning so you feel a bit ridiculous, and the second one has such a huge meaning you are afraid to be too demanding, because you could not recognize the other person's level of affection.

But really, I ponder too much on things. Nobody has the same existential questionments when doing all this, it is just natural.

I'm not sure why, but I stopped getting embarrassed when I grew past my teen years. I really haven't felt embarrassment as I just wave things past me all the time. Though I do remember how bad it was to feel embarrassed, I just don't get that anymore.. Is anyone else like this?

Yes, that is exactly what I have experienced. I no longer get embarrassed these days. I attribute it to being completely happy with who I am now, and therefore not caring about what other people think of me.

I am always accused of being rude because I'm too shy to do those things