Why Is It So Hard To Even Get One Word Out Of Me?

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Well about 4 months ago I had 3 friends and now I've lost all of my friends due to my horrible communication skills. There is more to it than just that, which I can't really say on here. What bothers me most right now is the fact i feel so lonely and bored all the time and I have no one to talk to or hang out with. I don't have any friends at all and lately I've been depressed because of certain situations which again I can't say on here. I know I need to become a better person and change a bit. I just got a job a week ago, my first day was on Wednesday, I've been working 3 days training and there are certain situations where I will have to talk to people, well so far I can only talk to 2 people that I work with. I work as a Dietary Aid at my stepdad's workplace which is a nursing home, I find it hard to communicate in general, I really wish this wasn't so hard for me, I want to be able to talk to people and be an outgoing person and the loving and caring person that I am. I just don't know what to do anymore, this whole not having friends thing and having a hard time communicating is literally driving me insane, and i am so stressed out. I just need help or some advice. I just wish someone would tell me everything is going to be ok. Besides that, my anxiety is starting to take over me again and I hate that, does anyone else feel this way ever or am I really going insane? Is it only me that finds it so hard to communicate or is that normal?

Actually you are in a very lucky position. I worked in a nursing home. The elderly people are awesome , and yes, you will have some that are not nice and complainers. Don't let them rattle you (be understanding that they probably had a crappy life). But the rest can help you. Listen to them, be understanding, be accepting, be respectful, answer their questions. They are very accepting, know all kinds of things about the world and relationships and grateful for any help you give them. Use them to be guided out of your shell. Let them be your friends for a while and you will learn from them. Hang out with them after work, play cards, ask them a question about their life and listen. Many of them are also lonely and in need of attention and friendship.
You can get attached to your residence so when one dies learn to accept this as part of life and it can teach you how to live and die with grace.
You may just be in the right place and the right time for what you need.
Good Luck on your new job.

I think we all find it hard to communicate LOL. I mean were Aspergians. Your still young so theres plenty of time for you to get better at communicating with those darn nerotypicals. Usually if I cant find something to say you can ask questions that involves them giving a lengthy answer. Just remember that people really dont care about you, so why care about what they think?

Remember that people WANT to make friends.

I've also had very severe anxiety at certain times but I managed to overcome it. I realized that life is just a temporary experience. Life is no big deal no matter how much it sucks. I learned how to stay concerned but detached.