Confused about my orientation (help!)

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OK, I'm a 19-year-old girl and when I was 12 I started getting crushes on other girls, especially this singer Rachel Stevens from S Club 7. Then when I was in high school I was crushing on this girl in my grade. (and still am) And now I have a crush on this actress Katherine Heigl, formerly of Grey's Anatomy. But I also like guys. I even have a boyfriend (even though I'm not really attracted to him.) Is this just a phase I'm going through, or could I really be bi-sexual or bi-curious? Please help!

If you're sexually attracted to both guys and girls, you're bisexual. Question is, why are you with your boyfriend if you're not really attracted to him? Isn't that a bit dishonest?

I'd say just go with what you feel like.

skip all those labels and go straight to being labelled as happy.
if you find a guy attractive date him, if you find a girl attractive date her.

It's the 21st century.
You aren't going to get the death penalty for being physically attracted to girls. Atleast in the western culture.

You could tell your boyfriend about this, but don't forget to tell him that you're spiritually attracted to him. That could bring you closer or push you further away.

It's not good to keep secrets, it'll burden you.

I understand what that is like and it's confusing. I don't think I could ever have nearly enough of a close "spiritual" relationship with a girl to ever not feel like I want to be with a guy. But then, I'm not going to totally count it out. I'm just going to see how things roll out.

Trust me, you're bisexual. I've been through all the hard phases of self discovery, I know what it's like. It's only a phase if it's for a year or two maximum. From twelve to nineteen, you're bi., Doesn't matter, just accept it.

There's another possibility. I used to think I was gay and bi when I was younger(middle school), but I noticed that it was all in my head and that I really just like girls. I don't get embarassed when I talk to any boys, but when I talk to a girl I like, I get jittery. That's how i could tell. I still get stressed out thinking I might be bi or something. It's not that my parents won't accept me. I'm lucky as both my parents are super liberal humanist atheists so I wouldn't be afraid. But little things like the jittery thing tell me that my mind is playing games with me. My mom knows I get stressed too and has ever since it first began in 6th grade.

But if you truly honestly think you are bi or gay, than you might just be. If so, don't be afraid. A lot of people are coming out as gay or bi these days.