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04 Jun 2010, 11:26 pm

I have.

My friend in 3rd grade invited me to her birthday sleepover. I did not like her very much as she was loud and obnoxious. But I was just her friend because..Im not sure why. I just was, Anyway I went to her party it was around 10 pm, and they wanted to play this card game, I did NOT want to play it because i didnt like that game, so I stayed in her room and just sat alone doing nothing, her mom was very mean to me, I never liked her as she was loud and obnoxious to( i guess it runs in the family). So she asked me why I did not want to play the game , i said "I just dont want to and I didn't look at her when I said it so it sounded even more rude then it was meant," . She then said to me "that's it im calling your mom you need to go home"" so I i dont really remember what i said but i probaly said "fine ".". ---anyway, my mom came to pick me up, i dont remember if i got in trouble or not I dont think I did because my mom did not like her either. But I just wanted to be alone, and I didnt like that game.

We had not come across AS at the time. The eye contact thing, and wanting to be alone were some of the signs that it was just something I did because of my AS.



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04 Jun 2010, 11:54 pm

Kat15 wrote:
...She then said to me "that's it im calling your mom you need to go home your being a brat" so I i gave a remark of "fine I dont care i dont like it here anyways.". LOL---anyway, my mom came to pick me up, i dont remember if i got in trouble or not I dont think I did because my mom did not like her either. But I just wanted to be alone, and I didnt like that game.

We had not come across AS at the time. The eye contact thing, and wanting to be alone were some of the signs that it was just something I did because of my AS.


Wow, real nice person. :roll:

Sorry that happened to you. Eye contact or not, that doesn't sound "bratty" to me. Some people just don't understand that being unsociable does not necessarily equal being "rude."

I went to exactly one sleepover in the 6th grade. I didn't get sent home but spent most of the time feeling profoundly anxious about being away from home overnight for the first time. Somehow I got through it, and no one was particularly mean or anything, but I never did it again.

That girl who was your "friend" then--are you still?


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05 Jun 2010, 12:19 am

Approx at age 13 a neighbor (who would have been age 11) and myself were talking about Christmas for some reason. She was spewing off her wish list and I told her that she should cut some of those things off b/c *spoiler* her parents were "Santa" and you could have sworn I slapped her (sticks and stones...). I broke it down to her about how one person couldn't POSSIBLY deliver specific toys to each and every kid in the WHOLE WORLD in one night and the next thing I know her dad comes out and told me to be quiet and go home. I told him I was trying to help HIM out and needless to say he was on the horn to my parents before I made it home. Didn't get in trouble (that I recall), but then again my parents would either shake their head or just go off and whisper what I did to others with a snicker anyway.



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05 Jun 2010, 12:32 am

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Approx at age 13 a neighbor (who would have been age 11) and myself were talking about Christmas for some reason. She was spewing off her wish list and I told her that she should cut some of those things off b/c *spoiler* her parents were "Santa" and you could have sworn I slapped her (sticks and stones...). I broke it down to her about how one person couldn't POSSIBLY deliver specific toys to each and every kid in the WHOLE WORLD in one night and the next thing I know her dad comes out and told me to be quiet and go home. I told him I was trying to help HIM out and needless to say he was on the horn to my parents before I made it home. Didn't get in trouble (that I recall), but then again my parents would either shake their head or just go off and whisper what I did to others with a snicker anyway.


:lol: Glad your parents had a sense of humor about it.


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05 Jun 2010, 2:07 am

No, she's not my friend anymore. It's been about 4 years since I've seen her.



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05 Jun 2010, 6:02 am

I2I wrote:
Approx at age 13 a neighbor (who would have been age 11) and myself were talking about Christmas for some reason. She was spewing off her wish list and I told her that she should cut some of those things off b/c *spoiler* her parents were "Santa" and you could have sworn I slapped her (sticks and stones...). I broke it down to her about how one person couldn't POSSIBLY deliver specific toys to each and every kid in the WHOLE WORLD in one night and the next thing I know her dad comes out and told me to be quiet and go home. I told him I was trying to help HIM out and needless to say he was on the horn to my parents before I made it home. Didn't get in trouble (that I recall), but then again my parents would either shake their head or just go off and whisper what I did to others with a snicker anyway.


Egads!

I could see someone being upset if you were trying to discredit someone's religion (i.e. saying that Jesus, Allah or ??? wasn't real). That would be disrespectful to someone's spirituality and culture.

However, SANTA CLAUS!!. Cmon!!



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05 Jun 2010, 6:18 am

Kat15 wrote:
I have.

My friend in 3rd grade invited me to her birthday sleepover. I did not like her very much as she was loud and obnoxious. But I was just her friend because..Im not sure why. I just was, Anyway I went to her party it was around 10 pm, and they wanted to play this card game, I did NOT want to play it because i didnt like that game, so I stayed in her room and just sat alone doing nothing, her mom was very mean to me, I never liked her as she was loud and obnoxious to( i guess it runs in the family). So she asked me why I did not want to play the game , i said "I just dont want to and I didn't look at her when I said it so it sounded even more rude then it was meant," . She then said to me "that's it im calling your mom you need to go home your being a brat" so I i gave a remark of "fine I dont care i dont like it here anyways.". LOL---anyway, my mom came to pick me up, i dont remember if i got in trouble or not I dont think I did because my mom did not like her either. But I just wanted to be alone, and I didnt like that game.

We had not come across AS at the time. The eye contact thing, and wanting to be alone were some of the signs that it was just something I did because of my AS.


The woman clearly overreacted. :roll: Oh well at least you don't have to go there again. :lol:


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