When did you start a sexual relationship?

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When or have you, started a sexual relationship yet, and how do you feel about it?

Nothing graphic or they will move it to the adult section.

I was 20 and it was over rated. He wanted too much of it. Then when I told him I didn't want it till September because it cool down by then and it won't be so hot out. He went right to his computer never getting off except bathroom, bed, and when he ate. He used me.


My current one, it's not real sexual. We don't have it often until we start trying again. We were having it twice a week when we were trying. He is fine with having it only once a month. He doesn't need it everyday or every week.

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M.

Well I kept mine clean didn't I?


I didn't go graphic.

I was 20, as well. After 10 months of dating this guy, I finally gave in, but broke up with him immediately after. It was a terrible experience and I think it caused me to jump from one relationship to the next. I really don't understand why, but if you're not ready, it can be extremely damaging. DO NOT LET YOURSELF BE PRESSURED, EVER.

I have not yet and for the time being and I'm thinking of waiting until married. Or at least until I've been in a serious relationship for a long time. Of course I'm not going to pressure my partner or anything, I'd probably be too scared to ask and they'd have to initiate it.

not yet

While my ex was a bit too controlling...he was an Eastern Orthodox Christian...so we would NOT want to do something like that. And I personally don't want to have sex anytime soon....rather keep my virginity thank ya!

Actually the 1st time I had sex, a girl at a party gabbed me and said "let's go". I kinda knew her (I think she was in my Western Civ class), she was kinda cute.. I had a good weekend, definitely unexpected and not planned.

Well that never happened to me again. From then on, my relationships developed over time.

I have lots of failed relationships, I could most likely give great advice on what not to do or say.
But what seemed to work for me. Being in their space, touch, becoming comfortable with each other.
Getting to know my now wife. I took every chance I could for use to touch each other. I helped her on with her coat, took lint off her shoulder, commented on the earrings she made while brushing her hair aside. I would take her hand in crowds so we would not be separated. Give her a hug hello or goodbye.. as time passed we grew closer and touched more often.

i started the relationship a few moths a go the sexual part of it one week ago and it is good... why do you ask?

I'm just wondering. Many people around my age (and younger) are having sex. I'm not too interested in it, and my boyfriend doesn't want to start an intimate relationship with someone until he is married. I was wondering when others on here had started one, and why.

OK here's my opinion. I have never actually had sex so I can't say for SURE. However, having taken (and almost finished ) a sexuality class at school, I would assume that people have it for one of two reasons: # 1 is so they can have kids (something I prob'ly would not do), and # 2 is is 'cuz people find that the feel of their natural bodies against one another is pleasurable to them (BTW using the word "natural" here 'cuz if I used another term for it it prob'ly wouldn't be apt here...so please try to figure out what I mean by "natural" here if you haven't already, lol ) Personally I wouldn't mind such contact. However, I DO have my (at least current) limitations on this - any body-to-body contact, whether natural or with covering, is fine with me, EXCEPT if it's with the parts commonly covered by a bathing suit. I dunno, it just sounds reaaallllly risky IMO, esp. for someone like me who would fear getting disease on account of this type of contact (again I hope you know what I'm talking about, but I think by now I've gotten as clear as I can without being "adult"). My OCD isn't always the best since it causes me to fear things like this

Seriously, though, body to body contact without heavy use the "parts down below", lol sounds like something that would be an absolutely wonderful experience for me if I ever got the chance to have it! I've gotten comfortable and confident enough with my body, its image, etc. to look forward to such an opportunity instead of dreading the possibility of it. I hope this isn't what's causing you (and your bf) to think twice about an "intimate" relationship I hope you're wanting to postpone and/or forego it for the same reasons I am (i.e. fear of disease). Honestly, it's a darn shame Western culture teaches little kids (and others) to be ashamed of their bodies It's really rooted in our fear of change, difference, acceptance, etc. IMO.

Also, I just thought of a third reason people your age (and younger) have sex. Pressures of our backwards, cockamamie media, lol It's also a matter of status for the teens and unmarried twentysomethings who engage in such activity - since Western culture views sex to be a "taboo" subject, most of the "average" teens prob'ly think that by rebelling against such ethics that they are vying more and more for the status they (think that they) want. Same with smoking, drinking, etc.

P.S. (to the moderator if he/she is reading this) - I hope I haven't used terms and/or descriptions here that sound too "graphic". If I have please let me know and I'll try to edit them. Not trying to offend anyone here. Quite the opposite, really

I have yet to have sex. I assume that if I do, it'll happen in the distant future.

As to why teenagers want it, I'd say its down to hormones. Hormones go mad when you're a teenager. For NTs, I guess another aspect would be the higher social position attached to loosing your virginity too.

Also don't forget its natural for any humans to want sex, its how we're 'designed'.

I must be abnormal then, since I look on the idea with complete and utter disdain
Besides, I would prefer not to get any deadly diseases like AIDS.

That's called being asexual, if I remember my science classes correctly.