"Reverse Aspie"?

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After being on this site for a while and observing the other aspies in my school, I have come to the conclusion that (I know almost everyone here says this at least once) I'm totally different than any other aspie here.

I do like to put myself in social situations, in fact, I love it! Being social is probably the easiest thing for me to do because it just feels so natural. I'm even awesome at talking to the popular because I understand their sense of humor and I can tell when they're joking or not. I'm also quite the athlete, except for the brushing up I need for basketball. But then when it comes to acedemics, I try and try and try in my classes, but I never seem to do well enough in school to be recognized for my hard work. I actually flip out over B's on my report cards, and that's usually what I get for the most part. Burying my face in a mirror to apply makeup is a lot easier for me to do than burying my face in a book to study.

From my observations, I've noticed that other aspies usually don't like to put themselves in much, or any, social situations, they love to read, they're (not really obsessed, but...) in love with animals, they can absorb acedemic knowledge from a book faster than a sponge, and mainstream's not their thing. These are just things that I've noticed, I'm not saying that all aspies are like this. If I offended anyone, then my apologies.

So, am I the only one who feels this way, or are there any other aspies like me? I hope I'm not, I really want someone I can relate to on here.

The way I see it, just like NTs, every aspie is different. Some are extroverts and some are introverts. But just because you love to socialize, you are not exempt from the social problems that introvert aspies may have.

Even if you feel that socializing is the most natural thing in the world for you, the diagnosis of AS by definition includes social limitations. Chances are that you really have a very nice group of friends who is willing to put up with your faults, so keep them close =) If we all were so lucky, you would likely find many more who loved to socialize on this forum.

every aspie is different! I like social things some days and other times I hate it! Its hard for me to carry a conversation with my peers.

Well in my opinion Aspergers seems like a bit of a catchall diagnosis that doesn't really have much real scientific merit. I have NVLD, for example, and it's by most people diagnosed as Aspergers, but by a neuropsych, it's NLD. So "Aspergers" seems like a bit of a vague silly label psychs apply to people.

Anyway, though, I can halfway relate. I'm actually naturally very outgoing, as a kid, me randomly going up to adults and asking a million questions was cute, but as an adult, it apparently is not. As far as socializing, it depends, I'm weird in that going to say, a carnival wouldn't bother me much at all, and I find social situations like that easy, and am almost extroverted in that I feel a bit energized and not drained by them. My problems come mostly in small groups of friends of friends, clubs, etc.

I find it very easy to make friends, and people seem almost to naturally wanna talk to me. I can make a good first impression with someone, but once they get to know me, my "Aspie" qualities, whether it's social awkwardness about body language/eye contact, interests, or simply being "weird" shine through. As far as popular people, initially I got along well with them in school, I smile a lot, seem happy, quite outgoing, etc, but then they realize something is amiss, and yeah...

As far as athlete, it depends on the sport. Individual sports I do OK at, but team...no.

I'd say the test will come in the next few years, at your age I wasn't diagnosed. If you get yourself rejected alot socially, you may join the camp of nihilistic anti-social Aspies, but if you're lucky and manage to not stick out in a bad way, you'll look at your diagnosis and totally not care.

I think what you described is not common among people with Asperger's.
I hate being with people, and from some reasons I am jealous of your personality.

I think my dad was Aspie, and he was extremely extroverted. (The complete opposite of me, and he never understood me being so introverted.) He couldn't bear to not have social time, nearly every day. Although he was very social, I can, in retrospect, see Aspie aspects to his style of socialization that caused him problems, which is part of the reason I think he was Aspie.

I am a combo Aspie.
I enjoy social things but my viewpoint grows more sepia/yellowish when I get overwhelmed (the world actually looks yellowish.)
I have urges to poke people that I can rarely resist.
I stim on occasion like staring or twisting something over and over (like my goggles before swim meets)
I get audio overload fairly easily even just listening to a group of seven or eight NT female teens
I have good friends and people like me but I'm too shy to initiate conversations.
My IQ drops 5 points per person listening to me.
I DO absorb information but it has to be interesting to me.
I love to read when I was eight I read 250 CWPM that is about the same speed as most adults.
When I was in 2nd grade my teacher on occasion let me grade my classmate's papers.
I have a good vocabulary and most of my words that I use in conversation are eight+ letters.
I don't do eye contact with anyone but my sister and Grandpa (his eyes are awesome they have this soft look to them that I love.)
But...
I do enjoy being around people most of the time.
I do develop crushes on boys periodically.
I like to be touched (but it has to be firm no wimpy hugs if you don't mind.)

Oh, and the reason we like animals is because they make sense.
They beg when they want something.
They come to you when they feel cuddly.
They can sense your emotions (which is more than I can say for most NTs in regards to me.)
Their basic psyche just seems more logical and less emotional than the human psyche. I have loved animals since I was a toddler and will love them till I die.

I am considered one of the most introverted person many have ever seen until I see if they are trustworthy...I am very open and friendly with close friends.

Having aspergers syndrome does not determine weather or not someones an extrovert or an introvert. Many aspergics just tend toward an introverted attitude or lifestyle after having too many negative social interactions as a kid (which is what happened to me). In fact, i've heard that children and adolecants on the sepctrum tend to expirience feelings of lonliness more than NTs.

i am introverted to the point of shutting out almost everyone, except very close friends (and even then, at a safe distance).

You misspelled academic
sorry my aspie trait most noticeable is my lack of tolerance for spelling errors.

I've noticed. I sorta just assumed that you was an extroverted Aspie, unlike I (and a lot of others). I'd shut down when confronted (curling up in a ball is a preferred action, but alas! You can't do that in school), you however... Well, I don't know.

I fall under this category too. I feel like its good to be social with people and have friends. Usually I will head for the more popular most known people in the room because I know them the best. I always preferred gym or sports over academics (with the exception of history because my moms friend taught it). I was especially good in hockey and volleyball. I care alot about what other people are wearing too because its not easy to be liked and be differnt. Im usually in the garage or in the yard doing something. I go to things many aspies would run from. I was just at a trip at the shore with family. I go camping and fishing too and one of the things im proud to have is a drivers license My most important ruleis dont tell anyone because if I did I'd have nothing.
*You could say i have a reverse family and group of best friends-
My sister is NT has some of the traits because she is extremely smart and can memorize anything with a High IQ. and is going to college all expenses paid. Same for my cousin (probably the smartest person inthe school) and he is in a expensive college and is a video game person. Rarely see my sister because she is still social.
I have an old friend who has basically taken every class there is for computers.
My girlfriend obsessed over Anime and it was the only thing I hated about her, dragging me to the conventions.(she might have been on the borderline like me)
Another one of my good friends always dresses how he wants to and he still fits in.
However if there is a problem with something that needs to be fixed then people call me or my dad (usually my dad first)