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18 Nov 2010, 9:15 am

I'm an old lady but my son who is 12 likes a girl in his class. Unfortunately, he is going to attend a different middle school next year. He wants to keep in touch by doing something nice for her. He decided that he would send her a Valentine card once a year until she is 16 and they are old enough to date. I think he should only send a Christmas card every year. That won't worry her parents. A Valentine is too bold. What do you guys think?



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18 Nov 2010, 10:06 am

I think, a Valentine's Card before he changes school and Christmas cards in the years to follow is good. He is around the age where the whole social network stuff starts so this might trigger contact online - online chat, social network sites, text messaging, etc.

If he wants to date her when she is sixteen, I think he needs regular contact and/or leave a damn good impression on her. Because I guess she ain't planning the same thing as you're son.

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18 Nov 2010, 10:38 am

I think Christmas is probably better-- keep things on a friendly basis that will be less intimidating. He could even add a birthday card, if she celebrates them. Those are things friends do for each other. He will have plenty of time to send valentines when he is ready to date. Why not keep his options open until then?


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18 Nov 2010, 11:19 am

I don't see why he can't just ask her out.



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18 Nov 2010, 2:31 pm

Asp-Z wrote:
I don't see why he can't just ask her out.


They're too little. :oops:



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18 Nov 2010, 2:45 pm

RightGalaxy wrote:
Asp-Z wrote:
I don't see why he can't just ask her out.


They're too little. :oops:


I had my first girlfriend at 13, just a year older than your son. I don't see the big deal.



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19 Nov 2010, 3:42 am

Yeah, I'd say it's okay if kids have boyfriends/girlfriends aslong as it doesn't get too serious.


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19 Nov 2010, 10:40 pm

It's an old joke, but it's a classic: So [insert age younger than sixteen]-year-olds are dating now. What are they going to do, cuddle while watching Blues Clues? I might be the only one who gets that.

But anyway, the Valentines are probably a little bit too over-the-limit unless you can guarantee that she feels the same way. However, even if you can guarantee that, four years is a long time to wait on someone; I was waiting on a girl for about a year and a half, during which she had more than seven boyfriends. I just tapped out after that. The social media stuff is a good idea; it's a great way to keep in touch with old friends.



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20 Nov 2010, 2:08 pm

He should send a Birthday card, it is more personal than a generic holiday card that people send out to everyone they know.



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20 Nov 2010, 3:04 pm

BroncosRtheBest wrote:
It's an old joke, but it's a classic: So [insert age younger than sixteen]-year-olds are dating now. What are they going to do, cuddle while watching Blues Clues? I might be the only one who gets that.

But anyway, the Valentines are probably a little bit too over-the-limit unless you can guarantee that she feels the same way. However, even if you can guarantee that, four years is a long time to wait on someone; I was waiting on a girl for about a year and a half, during which she had more than seven boyfriends. I just tapped out after that. The social media stuff is a good idea; it's a great way to keep in touch with old friends.


I feel the same way...there's no reason to get your heart broken over someone that is to inexperienced to have a clear definition of what love means.

I'll suggest just a Christmas card, and maybe, if it's right, kind of make her a pen pal or something.