I don't want to go to this party

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My friend who's house I went round on New Year's Eve is 18 next week and is having a house party with loads of people; 20+ are going (all my friends moved on in the social world when school ended and I wasn't there to drag them down). New Year's was fine because it was 6 of us guys and I knew nearly all of them very well.

It will be most of his friends from college who I don't know at all, so I just can't do it. I am perfectly happy to just play my games at home on my own, but I would feel guilty about not going at the same time. I know it would be an experience but I would not feel comfortable with being around lively people I don't know.

Also there is girls, and I can't talk to them so the best thing to do is avoid coming into contact with girls until I die.

If you don't wanna go, don't go.

If your friend knows you have AS, he should feel guilty for asking you to do something so stressful. Just because he and his buddies are going to have a good time, doesn't mean you will. What he's asking you to do is subject yourself to a form of psychological torture.

What I end up doing when people won't stop bugging me to go to things I have no interest in attending is tell them I'll be there, then just fail to show up or answer my door or phone until the day after. Eventually they stop asking me to these stupid things.

Go
When you get there tell your friend you can't stay long but you really wanted to attend.
If things go ok then you can stay longer, if not you can leave.

You are not trapped.

Ahhh this story... My girlfriend (Now ex) invited me to a New Years party... Being my girlfriend at the time I really wanted to see her but I didn't want to go to the party... Anyways last night I was talking to her (We're still friends) and I asked her about the party. She said it was good but there were only a few people there, somewhere between 3-6, I can't remember the exact number... And it was mostly people I knew anyways. I still didn't want to go.

Basically if you don't want to go then to avoid making them feel rejected and you guilty just say "If I can go I will but I think I have plans, sorry."