ghostar wrote:
Other NT friends are more like "drinking buddies" i.e. we hang out and ride bikes and drink beer and joke about a lot of stuff so my Aspiness doesn't seem to bother them...I actually think most of them appreciate my different perception of the world. It makes mundane occurences more interesting to them maybe?
That's pretty much how my relations are with all my friends. I'm a MTBI type ISTP, this pretty much hits the nail on the head as far as me and my friend situations...
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ISTPs usually have a selection of friends who share their love of particular hobbies and pasttimes. They might have a friend who they ski with, and another who they shoot pool with, etc. They generally have no interest or patience with individuals who do not share their interests, and will spend little or no time with them. They have a difficult time understanding people with extremely strong iNtuitive preferences, and are not likely to spend time with these individuals unless they share a common interest or hobby. They enjoy spending time with Extraverts, whose enthusiastic, talkative natures are attractive to the more reserved ISTP, but they will eventually tire of their "bubbliness". The ISTP is able to get along well with people of any personality type, but is likely to value and bond only those with whom they have common interests.
I've got one diagnosed Aspergers friend (though an online friend, but he's been my friend for years), and one diagnosed NVLD friend. They're pretty good to be around/talk with. I have one friend who's half black, and that presents a lot of problems for him in interpersonal relationships, and it's entirely possible he's got AS, but has learned to mask it well enough. My sisters say he's the black version of me. So, I'd consider him NT, but... a bit different, to say the least. I think a lot is just race, half black people really got it extraordinarily tough.
But yeah, that paragraph is usually how my friends work.