Who has NT friends? (If non-NT tell me how they treat you)

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11 May 2012, 3:29 am

My NTs friends are kind to me and respect my difference and I am forever grateful for that. And my Non Nt friends. We are like siblings. Siblings who are closer than brothers and they will forever be in my heart.

How do your friends treat you?


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11 May 2012, 7:11 am

They treat me like I deserve. As though im pretty much normal.


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11 May 2012, 8:44 am

The way ALL people who deserve it should be treated


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11 May 2012, 10:51 am

My experience with NT friends is varied. The ones closest to me have taken time to research Asperger's on their own to better understand my nature. I am very grateful for those friends.

Other NT friends are more like "drinking buddies" i.e. we hang out and ride bikes and drink beer and joke about a lot of stuff so my Aspiness doesn't seem to bother them...I actually think most of them appreciate my different perception of the world. It makes mundane occurences more interesting to them maybe?



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11 May 2012, 10:55 am

How can they be like siblings but closer than brothers? I understand if they are closer than your brothers but that is not what is stated.


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11 May 2012, 11:44 am

My NT friends treat me as a friend. None of them know about my Asperger's, though. I'm not ashamed of it, I just see no need to tell them.


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11 May 2012, 3:02 pm

MY NT friends treat me pretty well, just as friends should do. I only really have a couple and we're very close, although due to my tendency to get a little scared/paranoid about just about everything at times, especially in social situations, I do often worry that they don't see me in the same way and would prefer to have a different friend if they could. In reality that's just me, though- they've never really done anything to indicate that. If I ever worry/get stressed about anything they tend to ignore me, but otherwise we're fine. I still rarely feel quite at the same level as them, though, unless I'm meeting up with just one friend- any more and I tend to get pushed to the edge of the group and feel excluded. :?

But these are all my defects rather than theirs. As friends, they're great and pretty accepting of me. They'd probably be accepting of me and my differences even if I chose to let myself out of my shell more, but I tend to be too scared/pessimistic to really let myself do that.



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11 May 2012, 3:47 pm

Behaviors of my NT friends are really varied. Some of them treat me like a normal person despite of knowing that I have AS. And some who know about my Asperger's think that they have to explain literally everything for me (including how to talk about our low self esteem and bad eating habits etc. - I don't need advices like that)Some don't know and treat me like a little girl, others also treat me normally. A few fashionable - popular - having cute boyfriends - interested in girly stuff girls think that I am "amazing, because they would not pretend to be such a nerd all the time." (sic!) (I am not sure why girls of that kind want to spend their time with me. I am almost sure that they are not interested in neurodegeneration.) And, finally, my best friend Tosia says that she is jealous of my Asperger's and she wants to have it too. She is the only NT I know who says such things.



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11 May 2012, 4:15 pm

I'm jealous. I have one friend, and he's an Aspie also. We aren't exactly super close, but he's a pretty nice guy.

I used to have some NT friends in elementary school. They could be a bit self-centered, like any child of that age, but we got along well, and had fun.



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12 May 2012, 10:28 am

Most of my friends are NT and they treat me like I'm a normal person, who is obsessed with Harry Potter....
(They like Twilight.... Why do I bother?)



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12 May 2012, 11:32 am

All of my NT friends have something else to them. My best friend was diagnosed with ADD, a guy I know has an anger issue, and can only stay calm around his girlfriend, who is bipolar.

I don't do so well around the typical NT. :lol:


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12 May 2012, 12:29 pm

avatarowl wrote:
Most of my friends are NT and they treat me like I'm a normal person, who is obsessed with Harry Potter....
(They like Twilight.... Why do I bother?)


Twihards they are like physics hard to understand but physics actually makes sense


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12 May 2012, 2:56 pm

Most of my friends are NT, I have very few friends who are on the spectrum, those friends of mine who are, don't make any effort to hide their conditions, which I envy, since we're all in the same social group and only one of those Aspies (at least I think he's Aspie, his sister mentioned his autism and he doesnt really fit anything else, though he does have ADHD too) and a few NT friends know about me. The other Aspie is more HFA, but I'm not sure how HFA she is, we don't really talk and all I know about her it is that some of our friends are actually her support workers.

They treat me fairly well, but some of them tend to make a bit of fun of me when I say things that made sense in my head, but actually turned out to be insulting and I never realised.... My biggest issue with them, everyone in the entire world, is that I'll say something and noone will respond or acknowledge that I spoke, it's insanely frustrating.



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12 May 2012, 6:42 pm

i have a lot of nt friends but i do sit with the autism class at lunch even though im only an aspie, not an autistic person and i saw my math teacher at stage today i was like,"well tht breaks the theory about teachers living at school" and we both laughed and i gave her a hug she is my gifted teacher and there are only 8 kids in my math class and ive had her for 2 yrs now so she and i r really close she's almost a mom :D



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13 May 2012, 1:11 am

I'm undiagnosed...and will probably never be diagnosed. My friends have kind've just accepted me for who I am. So...yeah...I don't really have very many friends, AS or NT.



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13 May 2012, 1:55 pm

ghostar wrote:
Other NT friends are more like "drinking buddies" i.e. we hang out and ride bikes and drink beer and joke about a lot of stuff so my Aspiness doesn't seem to bother them...I actually think most of them appreciate my different perception of the world. It makes mundane occurences more interesting to them maybe?


That's pretty much how my relations are with all my friends. I'm a MTBI type ISTP, this pretty much hits the nail on the head as far as me and my friend situations...
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ISTPs usually have a selection of friends who share their love of particular hobbies and pasttimes. They might have a friend who they ski with, and another who they shoot pool with, etc. They generally have no interest or patience with individuals who do not share their interests, and will spend little or no time with them. They have a difficult time understanding people with extremely strong iNtuitive preferences, and are not likely to spend time with these individuals unless they share a common interest or hobby. They enjoy spending time with Extraverts, whose enthusiastic, talkative natures are attractive to the more reserved ISTP, but they will eventually tire of their "bubbliness". The ISTP is able to get along well with people of any personality type, but is likely to value and bond only those with whom they have common interests.


I've got one diagnosed Aspergers friend (though an online friend, but he's been my friend for years), and one diagnosed NVLD friend. They're pretty good to be around/talk with. I have one friend who's half black, and that presents a lot of problems for him in interpersonal relationships, and it's entirely possible he's got AS, but has learned to mask it well enough. My sisters say he's the black version of me. So, I'd consider him NT, but... a bit different, to say the least. I think a lot is just race, half black people really got it extraordinarily tough.

But yeah, that paragraph is usually how my friends work.