So this guy made fun of me for doing football...

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So I was at a gathering at my cousin's house. I was trying to be as quiet as possible.
Let me tell you my history with this group.

I grew up with most of them. Two are my age, one of which is 2 years into the group.
The one I grew up with I am kind of friends with. We're not deep talkers, but we hang out and chill sometimes. He is NT and sticks up for me.
There's my childhood NT friend's brother, 20 and community college sophomore who I get along with, kind of a loser himself.
Then there's another two brothers, 18 with ADHD, and 22 the quiet type, who usually hangs with a different crowd and doesn't hang with us anymore.Both from different town.
One guy who is also like the above one, except he's 17 and junior. Doesn't hang out with most of much. I am on very good terms with him. Except he lives in a different town.
There's another 20 year old college sophomore, not really much to say about him.
My best friend, turning 14 on MY birthday. Acts like an idiot sometimes, but NT and homeschooled for like 5 years.
Going to IB high school in the fall.
I will refer to them by their ages and characteristics.
Also, there's a bunch more of the Muslim Plymouth-Canton "community", but being recluse as I am....
And the guys in the "family friends" I just listed do pot a lot.
Childhood NT friend doesn't do it much, something I'm proud of. Same with my-age 2 years guy.
What's funny is that the other guys are all super religious, memorized the Qur'an (aside from NT friends brother and quiet guy), and they are huge potheads.

So yeah, I was at the gathering early, NT childhood and his brother and immature 14 walked in together.
It was a little bit uncomfortable, but not too much.
We talked about life (without brother) and I may have said too much, but I said "Oh yeah, I might not have time for that, I'm doing football".
And it was chill. Later on, once everyone else was there, the 2-years-in guy said "Hey, Huzaifa, are you doing football?" then "WHat position are you playing? and put me on the spot. I hate that guy.BTW I probably have been very intrusive and not quiet enough in the past, so I don't blame him.
I actually said, "Yes". 18 ADHD chuckled that I responded.
Me and immature 14 went upstairs and talked alone. I love that guy, but I had to leave. He's embarrassing. On the way out, 18 ADHD said laughing "Hey you're not giving me a handshake" and I actually put my hand out hesitantly and pulled it back. Childhood NT laughed but tried to stop him.I had also heard that when I was sitting downstairs before eating, I shouldn't have been there and since i was uncomfortable and didn't watch them, 18 ADHD was making faces at me, and most of them laughed but childhood NT stopped himself.
I didn't notice this but immature 14 told me later on.

Yeah, social autopsy please?

well what position do you want? it was an innocent question. Now the stuff that happened afterward was them being stupid.

I don't get what was funny. Is it funny that they are religous but smoke pot? the Qu'ran says to not do stuff that harms your body (not lecturing you on it, just saying that most muslims take that to mean do not drink alcohol) but marijuana does not have any long term side effects, except for that you said they were smoking it so smoke inhalation.

The saying that is a pipe dream came from what crazy stuff people would say from smoking hookah's

I don't know, if you want a sport that'll give you plenty of awkward family conversations, try figure skating.

Heya, you gave very good group context, but not conversational context... so i am following a hunch (and my own midsadventure here) so please disregard if this really isn't relevent:

Your football comment was said in all innocence and on the surface is an innocuous sort of comment. but if the guy has just given you an invite and this was your reply, it sounds to them like you are spurning them... because 'doing football' is more interesting or important to you than whatever the invite to hang was.

Unfortunatly this is a conversational/friendship trap i have fallen into on occassions. what you should sayis: 'oh yes, providing it isn't a football night - i'd be well up for that'.

p.s. guys like to tease and poke fun... next time the joke will as likely be on someone else