Need help making friends.

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I'm going into 10th grade in about two weeks. I really want some advice on how to make friends. You see, last summer I moved, and started 9th grade in a new state. It was awkward at first, but now that I have gotten to know some people, I need some tips on how to make friends, approach new people, and start conversations. Whenever people are talking at lunch, I always seem to be the guy who never says anything and just listens, and I want that to change. Got any tips?

No, unfortunately, I don't. I have the exact same problem and I have no idea what to do about it.

I had problems making friends when I was in highschool, but I developed a system: I always looked carefully at the group for a couple of days until I found someone as shy and lonely as myself and tried to make friends with that person. Just approach (it works better is the person is your same gender) and ask if you can sit next to him/her. Usually lonely people will say yes or just shrug. Then you ask him/her name, and talk a little about yourself and the thinks you like (remember to allow the other rerson talk. If the other person does not talkmuch you can ask questions, like what do you like to do in your free time, or what kind of music, movies, tv shows does she/he like, stuff like that). If everything goes fine you can ask him/her to meet after school. Good luck!

I spent a lot of my childhood sitting at a girls table since other guys never really accepted me, i was the geeky poet and they were the football player or the video game player, and it was always very akward for me especially in middle school, . In 9th grade for the first time i sat at a guys tableand how i made friends when i first sat down was i asked them about their favorite music, favorite sports, and favorite tv shows, and ususally the voncersation would go from there, for instance we all found out we all liked WWE( i like it to a point, it can get annoying because theyll spend more time talking and less time actually wrestling) so we spent the whole lunch period talking about our favorite wrestlers and favorite wrestling moves. and actually thats how i managed to have my first sleepover, because we wnated to have our own wrestling match and they decided to have it at my place, and it was a blast!.and another time we would talk about music and argue over whos the better band or artist, you know just stuff like that, really the thing you have to keep in mind is that as long as your trying to particicpate or start a conversation, they ususally will join right in, and if you keep doing that and doing that eventually youll get to know each other and become friends

I wish I had some excellent awesome tips to give you....

I had the same problem when I was in high school. Fortunately I was adopted by a group of people as geeky as I was my freshman year. There were 5 of us and really the only thing we had in common was that we were dorks who had no other friends and everyone picked on us constantly.

It worked out pretty well. We were pretty good friends throughout high school and I still hang out with some of those dorks even now. Another thing those dorky friends of my did was help me learn how to keep friends. Before high school my "friendships" would only last like a week or two before the person got sick of me and started ignoring me...because I know a little bit better now how to be a friend, some of them stick around longer.

The best advice I can give is this: try to find someone that you might have something in common with. Art was one of the things in school that helped me get to know other people. If you like books and your school has a book club, then join. Whatever works for you. Good luck!

Hi everyone,

Making new friends is never easy I know. Especially when you are in a new school or area altogether. What I do to make friends is simply walk up to someone that is alone and starting a conversation like: Hi, I'm (give your name) and ask things about the other person (even though it might not interest you), (hobbies, ask about the school etc.) (this is to get the other person talking.) The thing is to not be afraid of rejection because you can always try it again! Go out there and make new friends. If you have one good friend it can make anyone's life a lot better. Do as the saying goes: Carpe diem (sieze/capture the day!)

I hope I helped someone.

Heh, I didn't have any friends until after I moved to Brazil, where I got dive-bombed and forced into social interaction.

What's it matter? After high school you might not even see any of those people again.

I've found that one of the easiest ways to make friends is by participating in extracurricular activities. Join a sport of club that fits your interests and you will find a lot of people who have similar interests to your own. This will make it a lot easier to talk to people because you are all on the same common ground as a result of your shared interest in the sport/club.

making friends is really hard if you're new in school and everyone have their group of friends. i've been there before so i know what you feel. i made friends by staying on the school library since i love to read books. :p then i will find someone alone and i'll try to talk to him/her he/she is a transferee too or i'll simply start a conversation about anything that comes to my mind.