How to demand respect from others/is it disrespectful to

Post Reply New Topic

come in a public place with your friends, while there's someone already there?

How do you demand respect from others?

Walk away, or ignore?

Like these guys came into the school computer room, really loud, and I was already there.

just politely ask them to quiet down because you're trying ot get some work done.

When you look for messages from Angels, and believe that you are guided in every step you take, sometimes you will see those diruptions as a sign.

Imagine those people as "tools". (Not meant derrogatory)

Communication tools. Guidance tools.

Maybe you needed the break and didn't realize it. Maybe you were going down the wrong path in your work or studies. Maybe you were needed elsewhere.

daily coincidences aren't always coincidence, in my opinion.

Paying attention to those things and asking what they mean, instead of how can I change it, have shown me a whole new world of understanding.

I have beed used as a tool, I'm sure.

When I gave my life to Faith and service, I found myself traveling and being involved in peoples lives and having an effect I never could have "caused" to happen.

So, in conclusion. Don't fret over those circumstances. Do what you need to do at the time and then learn the lesson it was meant to teach.


You are very young. I am........older. lol

Speaking up in a polite manner to inform of your activities and need for quiet may have turned out any number of ways.

Just as getting up, and leaving the room may have turned out any number of ways.

It is our preconcieved notions that can get us in trouble sometimes.

Demanding respect is a need that you have. It may not have anything to do with what happened.

I don't believe we ever get the respect we think we deserve.

The problem with this is, you can damned well tell them, but because most Aspies have problems with tone of voice/expression, and most people only actually "hear" like 10-20% of what you're saying. I've told people things straight out before, and they've utterly ignored me. I had a youth pastor that was like this, for example, he'd keep touching me, I'd tell him "I don't like that, please stop" and he wouldn't stop, and I asked my friend about it and he's like "Oh, you just gotta tell him harder, you didn't make it known." I was like "What? I told him exactly what I meant." And basically he was trying to tell me I had to like, be a lot "harsher" in the way I told him things. I even sat that pastor down and explained to him why I didn't like being touched and stuff, and he didn't listen.

Unfortunately, some people just will not listen, so you're just kinda stuck...yelling at them. So, if they don't listen to you when you're being polite, you're pretty much gonna have to stop being polite. The only problem is, you can end up getting in more trouble than your impolite "attackers" if you would, so yeah. Or, it's simply not worth the trouble and you just gotta let the disrespect go.

Basically, this Dave Chapelle skit sums up everything.
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TVXqJ3A6NWw[/youtube]

Do something you would be respected for since you want it so badly. Sadly, if you want respect, you're going to have to give it in return.

If they're being loud for a sustained period of time, and it's interfering with your work, then it's absolutely appropriate to ask them to quiet down. Don't ask them to leave or stop talking entirely, that would be pushing it.