Girls- do you feel feminine?

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This is something I suppose I've thought a bit about recently with the whole thing that my friends are more socially mature than I am and are all into boys and make-up and all the things most sixteen year old girls are into. I was thinking after my mum bout me school shoes with an inch high heel in them, an they were pretty but afterwards I know I'll just feel awkward an weird just like I do when people put make-up on me. I want to feel pretty and Girly but I really just don't. Whether this is all just rubbish confidence I don't know but anyone else thik like this!

I know that feeling. Of course, it would be nice if I could be pretty and fashionable, but I cannot, it does not interest me. I am also not into boys and make up (all of the girls I attend English classes with have/had a boyfriend, and we are all 13 or 14). Sometimes I wonder why being obsessed with boys and popularity is considered 'social maturity'. I don't know what your friends do, but mine freak out when they see a boy and start to jump and yell "Oh! You're so cute! Let me hug you and have your email address!" and I would call it childish.

I think you are just fine the way you are.

For most of my life I've worn boots, usually docmartens, jeans, and no make-up. I hate heels. I will wear make-up and style my hair for job interviews and special events. I seem to be considered attractive by the kinds of men I want to attract. I wore make-up one day to work recently for a photo shoot that I was required to do, and hated all the extra attention I got. Old men in the elevator hitting on me, etc, etc, yuck. Find your own style, and stick with it-- if you try to look like someone you are not, you'll attract friends and future mates who are interested in the person you are pretending to be, rather than the person you are.

It's also fine that you aren't into dating. Sexuality develops differently in everyone, even NTs, and it's way better to wait until you are actually interested in someone, rather than pushing yourself into dating before you really want to. Some folks never become interested in dating at all, which is also fine. Your friends aren't necessarily more mature just because they wear make-up and like boys. You sound like a pretty intelligent, honest, and insightful person, which indicates that you are maturing just fine.

Sometimes.

It depends. My feelings are linked to my mood, and I only feel feminine when I wear something I really like.

I'm coming up 16 and I defiantly dont feel feminine, I dont follow fashion, wear make-up, have high heels or swoon over boys, even when my Mam tries to make me look "pretty" by dressing me up in dresses and make-up it all feels silly and wrong.

I am in no way girly and i pay the price for it socially. All the girls in my year talk about is boys and clothes etc. but why? is there some sort of hypnotic effect these things have on other people and not me?:p Ihave to just nod along and be bored out of my skull. why dont girls talk abotu anything else??! !!

Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. I wear makeup but I mainly wear jeans and a nice top or t-shirt.

I do feel like a girl (cisgendered) and I dress girly too. Nearly all my shoes are high-heeled and I like wearing skinny jeans and skirts (not that I don't feel comfortable wearing Docs-- I have fake black ones with flowers on them ). I never wear make-up however, it just seems too much of a hassle to me and my hand-eye-coordination is way too bad to be able to put on mascara properly.

When it comes to boys however, I'm not one to swoon over them. I've had crushes, but no boyfriends so far and to be honest I don't want one right now, or ever, if that's how my life will play out. I would really like to have sex though, but I don't like to talk about my feelings or about other people's feelings. My friend once called me an asexual when I told her I didn't want to talk about boyfriends/relationships/blah blah blah but I know that I'm not asexual, just... aromantic? Anyways, my friend thinks I'm asexual and I think my mother thinks I'm a closeted lesbian. People like to assume a lot of things about teenagers not obsessively looking for a relationship...

The only thing I consider feminine within myself are my feelings. I don't feel feminine beyond that. Oh, and I hate to cry in front of people.
I despite wearing skirts and dresses, they make me uncomfortable, so my clothing consists of a T-shirt, baggy sweatpants (indoors) or jeans (outdoors), socks, and sneakers. I have disfigured feet, so I can't wear just about any kind of shoes.

I rarely wear make-up, and only apply a little when I'm in the mood.

I'm also overly aggressive when provoked, and even physically harm someone when I really snap.

Even my interests aren't that girly. I'd rather obsess about video games over boys, among other things. I didn't even play with dolls as a child, as toy cars were more interesting. I do have crushes, but I don't think any guy would be able to handle me in a relationship.

I feel feminine, although I think like a boy sometimes. I like to dress and look nicely because I find it fun rather than seeing it as an obligation. I wear some make-up and wear nice t-shirts and jeans, although sometimes I scrub and wear old t-shirts with sweatpants. I also enjoy dress shopping for special occasions, such as prom, sports banquets, etc. I am interested in boys, but am less obsessive about romance than my friends are. I notice attractive guys, but don't make a big deal about it. My female NT friends squeal and obsess about any attractive guy or romantic subject. I find this annoying and immature. At age 17 or 18, it really isn't considered socially mature anymore.

As others have said, I rarely cry in front of people. I get really embarrassed when this happens unless I'm with close friends/family. I am also less emotionally driven than most women. I notice my emotions, but tend to ignore them. I am a very practical person, who considers emotions as less of a concern than practical matters. I listen to my head rather than my heart. My heart has proven to be an idiot if that makes any sense. XD Some days I feel more feminine than others. One day I will be excited to shop or talk about boys, while on a different day, I would rather play violent video games.