Did you notice your emotional puberty come MUCH later than

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13 Jun 2012, 8:50 pm

Did you notice your emotional puberty come MUCH later than physical puberty?

I started physical puberty around 12 and a half.
It's disgusting and perverted, but...anime.
That is all i can say.
Got body hair around that age.
Started working out a bit.
Started enjoying basketball.
Still self-absorbed, didn't care about talking to anyone. Noticed people acting and looking much more like adults, but didn't think much of it.
Didn't think seriously about anything.

13.
Voice broke.
Felt guilty about doing...you-know-what.
Embarrassed to play Pokemon around strangers (though I had been since around 9 years old)
Still told life story to strangers.
Wasn't wary of personal space and completely open.
Tried to walk "grown up".
Made fun of people I wasn't even close too.
Still loved Pokemon

14. (beginning of high school)
Voice had broken and mustache had come.
Started become more anxious around strangers.
Started understanding my lack of emotional maturity.
Still said stupid things to non-friends.
Started understanding people's discomfort with strangers.
Since I had started understanding, I pondered all the time what I was wrong.

15.
Seriously working out.
Got a beard.
Realized you do activities with people to get to know them.
Never thought being a man. Didn't think I was an adult at all.
Very anxious in class and showed it.
Offended women.
Learning about proffessionalism.
*just how important responsibility and committment really are*
15 1/2
Started thinking about time management and sense of purpose.
Thinking of chivalry.
Thinking of "I'm grown now"
Just realized about "calming down"/relaxing.
Respect everyone no matter what.
Don't take people too seriously.
Understanding women.
Don't get excited. Do what you enjoy. Your friends will be those you enjoy. Keep yourself calm, and *again* always be polite.


16 in 2 months.

That's how I've developed and it's about beginning of 9th grade. It's the best I can do,even with Ritalin.


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13 Jun 2012, 9:08 pm

Its interesting you say this, ive just turned 22 this month and my maturity level is that of a 15/16 year old girl. I hit puberty about age 8 going on 9. (yes i was an early bloomer).
Its pretty hard for a 10 year old girl being the only girl with breasts, and being waaay taller than everyone else in the class.
At the moment although i am 22, my interests are going out shopping with my 2 best friends who are 20 this year, and talking about boys and wanting to date. I mean sure i was dating at 16 but this is more of the girlly gossip "ooh look at that guy he's sooo hot." and all that girl talk.

My aspie mate,, was surprised when he made a "superficial enquirey" about me that I now do act like a NT Girl and do Girly things... but im 22 and act like a teenager...I still do not feel or think of myself as an adult. I feel somewhere around the age of 17 - 18. I am kind of starting to grow out of it a little only cause im forcing myself to. But yeah i really do not feel and or act 22.

I even dress like a teenager or at least i try to. It pisses off my parents =/



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13 Jun 2012, 10:57 pm

I'm 21 and act like an 8-10 year old. I love toys and cartoons, have no interest in pursuing romantic relationships, cry over trivial things and I am, as my dad has pointed out, very "needy". I started puberty when I was 14, which is about a year or two later than most girls these days, but not late enough to be considered a "late bloomer".



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15 Jun 2012, 2:10 pm

I think all the major physical stuff had happened by around 9 or 10, but I still often act like a 12 year old despite being 15.5 and rather smart. Still waiting on the voice changes though, hoping that doesnt happen (I dont really like my voice now, but I imagine it will sound much worse if it gets deeper.)



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15 Jun 2012, 7:47 pm

Teredia wrote:
Its interesting you say this, ive just turned 22 this month and my maturity level is that of a 15/16 year old girl. I hit puberty about age 8 going on 9. (yes i was an early bloomer).
Its pretty hard for a 10 year old girl being the only girl with breasts, and being waaay taller than everyone else in the class.
At the moment although i am 22, my interests are going out shopping with my 2 best friends who are 20 this year, and talking about boys and wanting to date. I mean sure i was dating at 16 but this is more of the girlly gossip "ooh look at that guy he's sooo hot." and all that girl talk.

My aspie mate,, was surprised when he made a "superficial enquirey" about me that I now do act like a NT Girl and do Girly things... but im 22 and act like a teenager...I still do not feel or think of myself as an adult. I feel somewhere around the age of 17 - 18. I am kind of starting to grow out of it a little only cause im forcing myself to. But yeah i really do not feel and or act 22.

I even dress like a teenager or at least i try to. It pisses off my parents =/


17 18 years IS an adult

most people by like 14 are basically grown.


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16 Jun 2012, 12:20 am

Hum, how old am I again?



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20 Jun 2012, 4:25 am

muslimmetalhead wrote:
Teredia wrote:
Its interesting you say this, ive just turned 22 this month and my maturity level is that of a 15/16 year old girl. I hit puberty about age 8 going on 9. (yes i was an early bloomer).
Its pretty hard for a 10 year old girl being the only girl with breasts, and being waaay taller than everyone else in the class.
At the moment although i am 22, my interests are going out shopping with my 2 best friends who are 20 this year, and talking about boys and wanting to date. I mean sure i was dating at 16 but this is more of the girlly gossip "ooh look at that guy he's sooo hot." and all that girl talk.

My aspie mate,, was surprised when he made a "superficial enquirey" about me that I now do act like a NT Girl and do Girly things... but im 22 and act like a teenager...I still do not feel or think of myself as an adult. I feel somewhere around the age of 17 - 18. I am kind of starting to grow out of it a little only cause im forcing myself to. But yeah i really do not feel and or act 22.

I even dress like a teenager or at least i try to. It pisses off my parents =/


17 18 years IS an adult

most people by like 14 are basically grown.


Yeah well apparently i dont act how a 22 year old should...



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25 Jun 2012, 4:46 pm

I never really noticed any emotional puberty. I feel emotionally mature, but I guess it was just a gradual process that I never noticed. Nothing analogous to puberty, just a gradual(and still ongoing) process.



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25 Jun 2012, 5:57 pm

i'm almost 19 and that list is going to get a lot longer the next 3 years.



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25 Jun 2012, 6:34 pm

I noticed that when people my age were kissing each other more and the fact they socialize EVEN more than they did in primary school.
PS Almost everyone I know Is an NT


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26 Jun 2012, 5:01 pm

UnLoser wrote:
I never really noticed any emotional puberty. I feel emotionally mature, but I guess it was just a gradual process that I never noticed. Nothing analogous to puberty, just a gradual(and still ongoing) process.


lmao obviously it's not spontaneous, you just realize a bunch of things and eventually you are an adult.


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