So do parents usually hit their kids?

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I'm just wondering. Do any of you guys get hit or threatened to be sent away or whatever when you act out sometimes? If so, like how much on a scale of 1 to 10 does it hurt? I know this is a weird, personal question. I'd ask my one friend, but I'm too embarrassed.

No, and if you're hit, you should tell someone.

I was spanked, many times. Belt once, didn't do that again.

I grew up fine.

I was a quite difficult child, I gave my parents hell from the moment I learned to say "No." I got the spankings I deserved, but nothing more. When I got older I got grounded when needed and when I started getting really bad, they did genuinely threaten to have me deemed incorrigible. But I was never abused.

If you think you are being abused you need to talk to someone in real life.

My brother and I were very seldom hit or spanked when we were kids, and the way some people go on you'd think we'd both have grown into complete criminals who'd be in prison by now. But we didn't. Usually punishment was loss of privileges like TV. When we got older my brother would get grounded but it wasn't really effective on me since I seldom went anywhere. I don't really get using pain and violence to punish your kid. It's not okay for them to hit other kids, why is it okay for adults to hit kids? And some people say it's okay as long as you don't "hit them in anger". Uh, yeah that makes perfect sense... "Hey kid I'm in a great mood, come here so I can inflict physical pain and suffering upon you." I don't know, it's a debate that will go on forever and I think it's pretty stupid.
P.S. If your parents are really hurting you it's child abuse and you need to GET HELP.

I don't know about the rest of the world, but it's illegal in the UK.

My Dad used to belt me once every other year for misbehaving. That's about it. I was never hit or marked (which is abuse).

I was beaten with a belt once before my mom knew I suffered from aspergers and my performance in school wasn't good ... They didn't do it again though... My sister was beat up when they found out she'd lied about something... I can't take violence so I was hurt emotionally... was scared and depressed for days.. It bothers me even now when I think of it... This is not haven so I'll leave it at that..

I was always a strong kid, so by the time I was 7 or 8 my parents stopped spanking me and started groundings. And the few times they did, I can barely remember to rate it.

Also, my dad had this powerful grip when he was mad that lasted until I was 11. He got rid of it because we complained to mom about it. He would grab our wrist, and it hurt like an 8...I mean, there would be red marks.

But I was never hit. I agree with everyone GET HELP IF YOU ARE BEING ABUSED

Not in the US.
Spanking when misbehaving can be common (I was when I was smaller), but only on the buttocks and not to the point of any skin breaking or bleeding or bruising.

Huh. That's eye opening. Alright then. Thanks.

I wasn't spanked but rather kicked in the butt sometimes when I misbehaved and I turned out fine. For some reason being hurt actually helped more than hindered.

I was spanked every now and then, and definitely grounded a few times, but i was never beaten with a belt andbeing beaten with a belt is a form of abuse and i would probably reccomend getting help if thats the case, im really sorry for those of you who were beaten and sometimes i even cry when i hear someone tell me about being beaten with belts. Spanking is just disciplining, but anything else is just going too far and is abuse.

This is something I was pretty confused about 2 years back or so I don't think parents should hit their children. I think the smacking is okay but only in a way which won't hurt them. At eleven years old I think it was pretty wrong of a step-parent who I had no relationship with to hit me rather too hard sometimes.

Like others said please seek help if you're being abused. Parents shouldn't hit their children too hard or for no reason, especially if they cause serious damage such as bruising and so on.

Overall I think it's fairly normal of parents to smack their children but they really need to know where to draw the line and sadly not all parents do.

I got slapped sometimes, but nothing serious. I got yelled at and threatened a lot more.
If you feel unsafe, tell an adult you trust. Right away.

I just get yelled at severely and maybe grounded. This is actually how I learned to lie, since my parents expect so much I lie about my mistakes to avoid the screaming.