Do you get babied by your parents (or even classmates)

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a lot?

Sometimes, instead of bullying, people will try to mother me.

It's especially annoying from girls.

Oh yes, it was one of the most offensive and isolating things about being autistic for me. Not only does it make you feel like a total idiot, it just makes it impossible to interact with the world. Highschool was a very lonely time for me. You need to either set people straight or avoid them when they do this, don't drop your standards.

I get it from people who care about me... especially those who rely on me in big ways.

Somehow they see a deficiency in me and try to protect that and I am not sure how they even figure it out or why they feel compelled to act that way. There are things that I'll mention being upset about and how I plan to react to them and the other person will be like "I'll go take care of it" which sometimes if they do so, they'll mess things up so I have to beg them not to.

I only really communicate with my mother as far as family goes, and I take care of her, so the mothering she does I see as her possibly needing to fill a emotional gap in herself so I somewhat cooperate with her on that.

My Friend (I feel like I should captialize it since I only have one ), who is also the mom of an 11-year-old aspie boy, mothers me all the time. It's kind of sweet, so it doesn't usually bother me, but sometimes she'll jump in to protect me from someone or something and I have to tell her "It's okay. I've got this". It can be nice though, when I'm stressed out or freaked out. It's also kind of funny since she's only a couple of years older than me

I got babied in kindergarten back in China by two other girls who were my classmates. They also bullied me, and one of them would hit me and bite me.

I wonder what their reaction would be if I could make contact with them again and tell them I got into MIT.

I'm never really pushed around at school, and my parents (not my dad, mind you, my mom and step-dad) trust me enough to let me be independent, so the only person left who will try to baby me is my sister.

I dont remember this being in the adolescent forum x.x Must have got moved...

to be clear: I am a legal adult... and still experience the same... it doesn't go away when you grow up :p Just changes from parents to friends/room mates/SOs, and from class-mates to co-workers

I think it happens quite a lot. And I hate it when my 9 year old brother and 8 year old sister act like they're my parents.

Somewhat, I guess. On more than several occassions, people act like I'm a little kid that needs to be watched or taken care of. Once, I was at a friend's party. He and one of the other guys kept checking up on me and asking me if I wanted to do, use, or eat something when I was perfectly content with silently watching their antics from the couch.

Sometimes, people act condescending to me on purpose as a joke because I just happen to be a tiny bit shorter and look a little younger than people my age. Other times, I guess I'm just more immature than most people in some areas, but noticably more mature in others.

In class my friends tend to ask the teacher things for me when I'm too scared to, but I find it more helpful rather than "babying".

My mother is very overprotective, which is nice, but sometimes worries me that I'm not going to make it on my own when I move out of the house, because most of the things she does for me are things I can't do myself, but am going to need to be able to do when she's not around, like calling people, organising things, handling finances, etc.

My friends also seriously baby me, which is weird because most of them are younger than me. I think it's because I'm so naive and don't understand what they're talking about when they have conversations regarding "grown up" things like boys, dating, sex, driving, etc, which leads them to inadvertently treat me like I'm as old chronologically as I am socially and emotionally, which I don't really care about most of the time, since it's what I need socially, but I do feel like it runs me into trouble when meeting new people who expect me to act my age and I don't really know how.

By my classmates? Yes. It doesn't really bother me. I consider it a form of positive attention.

Well... My parents are just saying that they are "labeling" me. They all treat me like any NT just I have more bullying than real NT's! But I'm an aspie... =)