Anyone else feel like an outcast?

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Most of the time when im at school I never feel like I fit in. Ive been told that I act rude (when actually I would never do anything to intentionally hurt anyone), dress weird, and apparently there have been rumors going around that I'm ret*d, don't take care of myself (as in personal hygene, because people say I don't brush my hair or shower but I do all the time), and I have heard people tell me that I am immature or that I dress weird. Its like every time I hear somebody laughing I feel like its at me. Not to mention when I was in elementary school I was always bullied for being different. That lasted till 6th grade and it still happens. And I have been told people laugh at me. Am I the only one that feels like an outcast? Does it get any better? Should I change myself?

Don't worry my friend...I have been in that exact place many times and let me tell you I did NOT like it one bit. All the time I have always felt I have been treated differently by my friends and people and have felt like a downer ever since it started during 3rd grade, but now my life has slowly started to turn around ever since I finally found the right help and support I needed. At the moment I have just started my life as a new student in a special school and wow the people there sure are friendly indeed! I may not be fully recovered from all the scarring just yet but just so you know life should get better and it WILL get better it just takes a while to dig into once you start talking more about your worries maybe...you'll start feeling a little more safer or something...? Don't worry I am not forcing you to get help so that is for you to decide only. I am sorry to hear about all of the problems you've been having but trust me there are many others like you including me who have been in that very same situation.. and I truly feel your pain...

Hope things slowly start getting brighter for you.
PM me if you ever want to chat about it, seeya.

Yep, and I'm 43 and apparently still an outcast. It gets better, though, as you get older; you meet other people like you and form bonds. I'm married now, have two beautiful boys, and I have a really close friend to boot. I've also been through therapy and am taking meds for anxiety, which makes everything better. You should have seen the look on bullies' faces when I blow them off.

Not really; you have to be part of the herd in the first place to be cast out from it.

I am an "outcast", partly by choice, because I don't relate to them at all. Oh well.

And norintha, do not change yourself. It just isn't worth it.

I used to feel like an outcast until i went to an alternative high school back in August. This altern. HS feels like where i belong. Their students here that are just as shy as me or they had similar problems that i have. I still feel alone in this school but at least i'm not treated like an outcast anymore. This school has changed me. It made me a lil less shy, more friendly, and it doesn't treat students like their idiots. So hey keep your head up and stay as yourself. If people mock you or bully you then don't listen to them. I've been bullied cause i used to be a midget. (4ft 10in. 61lbs.) and people kept being rascist to me. but as long as I have family, friends, and show people that i am more than what any dumb rumor says then i know i can have a good life. People will always bully or spread rumors. I'm so used to being bullied that if they try to bully me than I just smile cause I know that they have similar problems that I do and they just lash it out on other people. yeah i don't like it but life is just that way sometimes. so again keep your head up; your perfect just the way you are and never let anyone tell you differently.

I never feel like an outcast because I don't suffer because of loneliness and isolation.
I neither care of what people think of me.

I feel like you at school and I will be happy when it is over. People say the same things about me like about you. I hate it because it is not true! But when I say something against it also seems to be too rude... When I am angry I´m not always sure how to find the right words.
Does anyone have tips how to tell them?

I'm not really sure. I've never really thought much about how I'm perceived. It's just not something that interests me at all. I think most people see me as a quiet nerd and little else, and I'm fine with that. Being alone is something I enjoy, and I do have about 5 or 6 friends anyway - weird friends, just how I like them. There is absolutely no point in changing yourself for the sake of idiots from your school. Meet people who like you for who you are. I know that's very cliche advice, but it's good advice. You don't make actual friends by changing yourself. You find people who like someone else, someone you're pretending to be, not you. That would feel worse than not having any friends, at least to me. Stupid rumours always happen with children and teenagers, even adults are prone to it. If you want, feel free to PM me and talk about it. I'll listen.