Does anyone get this from people?

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"Son, you're in the tenth grade,you'll be a man/woman soon, be responsible"
"hahaha what a frosh"...in junior year.
"You're almost 14 years old, have some respect for yourself"
*random stares at beard*
"Hey, is this a fake ID? I thought you were still in school."


My parents,older relatives,mentors, etc. noticed that I was not acting like a proper young man even though I had started puberty.
This was around 12 or 13, back in the 8th grade (I had skipped a grade, though I dropped out for 2009-10).

I didn't take it seriously towards the end of like 10th grade. I have noticed that most children/youth think of these things in maybe eighth grade, so that by high school, you can basically function in adult environments, though obviously not as well as the upperclassmen or fully grown adults.
I know it's part of Asperger's for the emotional aspects of puberty to develop later.

I am just asking for shared similar experiences. Thank you

I didn't get anything like that, but I wonder if it's because I'm female?

Instead, probably due to AS traits, my parents seemed to think of me as a helpless child who needed to be protected until I finally moved out of their house. My mom STILL offers me money and food every once in awhile, though. I'm not quite sure if it's the overprotectiveness still coming out, or if she's just being a mom and it's her only way of connecting with her introverted and distant daughter.

I'm sure there are probably people here with similar experiences as yours, though. AS or NT, everyone hits puberty at slightly different ages. Many NT's seemingly never grow out of adolescence!

People think I'm older than I am. When I meet new people(ok, so it's not that often), they always look surprised if they ask my age and I tell them. I don't feel I look older, but there we go.

I also have the opposite to Morningstar as far as parents go - they're always trying to push me to go out with people to the shopping centre (yuck) or trying to get me and a friend to go and see a band (ouch!) because she wants me to be a "real" teenager rather than me.

I also would say that rather than "later" emotional maturing, it's "different" to standard. Ive been like this since I was 8, and though I'm sure I still have some way to go to have an "adult" mindset, I know that I am more mature than many of those around me, who still seem to act like screaming four year olds. (yuck)

I get that from my parents a lot, when they expect me to act mature. Well, here I am at age 18, still acting like a 14-year-old because apparently my emotional side had just kicked in. I'll just have to deal with it, I guess.

I believe in developing at my own pace.

Nah, people would be like "Hey, are you a senior?" when I was a freshman. I was 18-19 and offered complimentary wine at a restaurant just because I had a slight beard and was wearing a sweater. People tend to think of me as very mature, and I believe it's a case of extremes in both directions. In some areas, I'm probably as mature as people 40-50 years old. Then in others, I'm probably still like 10 years old. Generally people see more of the 40-50 years old. But I "feel" 40-50 at least at 21. But then people don't see how I spend my days listening to anime music, still own stuffed animals, etc.

Sure,OK but isnt developing something that happens rather than is done?

To get all philosophical here, everything is combination of circumstances and will. If I wanted a million dollars, and my dad owns Microsoft or Dupont, I could quite easily get a million dollars. If I'm homeless, have no job, and want a million dollars, it's gonna be harder, though still possible to get a million dollars if I try hard enough.

Nothing just "happens" all must be worked towards, just different people have different circumstances (in our case Aspergers) to make the task harder or easier. So as far as developing at your own pace, it is trying to be realistic about the time and effort it'll take for you to develop. It'd be very unrealistic for the homeless jobless man to say "Yes, I'll have a million dollars in a week!" Just as "normal" developmental milestones might be a bit farther of a reach for us.

hey was wondering if any of my fellow aspie bros or sisters get this
Me: hi
Them:hi
me:I have Aspergers
them:uh?!?:huh: !?! WThek is that ?
me: It's type of autism but higher functioning
them: oh, I have heard about that, don't you have like a special ability or something
me: ya I can fly
them: really can you show me (and they are SERIOUS)
me: no science&math
them: oh so you are rainman!
me: r sure
them: bye
me: bye

but were talking about mental development here.

People have some control over their mental development. If they didn't, there would be no point in anyone ever going to therapy.

So???? Does anybody ever get this or am I the only one?????

Ya I know you you feel my mom is always trying to get me "out in the real world" and I like to stay in my own little world so people can't hurt me or I at least don't Have to explain what Aspergers is so people don't judge me