"You're neither a psychopath nor a mimosa!"

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With respect to the title, this is how my parents - in this particular case, my father - respond to my AS behaviour. About ten minutes ago they entered my room, and I told them that this was stressful for me; however, they did not listen. My mother asked me if I liked to have tofu for lunch, and I said yes, then my father started to talk about going on holiday this winter... A conversation evolved between my parents, but I could barely concentrate on what they were saying. As my mother finally left my room, my father went over to my bed where my cat was sleeping, and stroked her. I felt that he was intentionally trying to upset me, so I told him he was being unfair. Apparently, this made him angry, as he asked me why I was behaving this way in an annoyed manner. To make matters worse, my mother came back in; and when I said "You're simply overcrowding my room," both of them insisted that I changed my behaviour as I was "neither a psychopath nor a mimosa" and had to "practise" getting along with others anyway.

I have not been diagnosed with AS yet. I will seek a diagnosis once I will be 18 years old, so that I will not have to discuss the issue with my parents. I sometimes think I hate them because I do not feel understood by them and believe that they are essentially ignorant when it comes to trying to do so. I usually try to avoid being with my family (my parents and my 14 year-old brother), and when I do spend time with them, we often get along "superficially". And sometimes we don't. I hate screaming, so I am mostly quiet when there is an argument. I wish I could simply run away, change my name and forget about my past life; but unfortunately, I am financially dependent on them. I loathe this thought, but it is true. I cannot leave without having to leave my aim of going to university behind.

Maybe I am thankless and cruel. Maybe I will turn out to be a psychopath in the end. But I am interested in whether anyone of you can relate to this. Moreover, do you think their behaviour is adequate? After all, they have known me and my social struggles for more than 17 years.

Thank you for reading this.

First of all, although it caught my attention that quote is absurd in the sense that it means almost nothing. A toaster is neither a psycopath nor a mimosa. The same is true for a horse. And a book. And so on... So it makes no sense at all, and I assume it's the refuge of someone who can't be bothered to think things through clearly.

And, by the way, if you worry about being a psychopath, that pretty much rules out the possibility that you are, because if you were, you wouldn't care. I'd say your parents are showing no consideration at all to you. And no understanding at all of all the many individual human variations which cannot be described as either a psychopath or a mimosa. In fact, the kindest thing I can think of to interpret this is to assume they're not only ignorant, but so smug in their ignorance, they don't care to bother doing anything about it.

It sounds as if this is what you're planning anyway, but my advice is to try to hang on and survive until you're eighteen, then, if you at all can, get out of there...