Teen girls here who have NO interest in having a boyfriend??

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I just wanted to feel less lonely, that's all. I want aspergirls more my age to talk to.

What would be the point in wanting one anyway?

Probably no one is ever going to love me because I am spiteful, oppositive, cold, short-tempered and defiant, people say that my personality sucks.

I'm not saying this because I have a low self-esteem, I just don't see why I should lie to myself.

Since things are this way, there's no point in wanting to have a boyfriend.

I used to have no interest, either. Absolutely none. I was like, "I don't need no man!" So I definetly know where you're coming from. I still don't think of having a boyfriend as a necessity. I never went looking for one or anything. I'm with someone now, but he's more like my best friend than my boyfriend really. I didn't date him for the kissy-huggy mushy stuff, I dated him because we have a great connection. I'm a traitor, I know, I'm so sorry.
Why don't you want a boyfriend? Is it because you're uncomfortable with touch? (I can be like that sometimes). Or is it that you don't want that kind of intimacy?

Some girls in my class have boyfriends and they act as though they are displaying a trophy. I personally see little point in it, I do not need the added drama or distraction, but I understand relationships. I think boyfriends are for older girls who need to seek support or to fill a void.

No, It's because I just don't want a commitment. And having a boyfriend is the first step to getting married (after finding "The One" that is) and so since I do not want a marriage or children, I believe there is no point in seeking a boyfriend.

Plenty of happy people who are in romantic relationships but never get married or have kids. Just because it's the first step to a larger milestone doesn't mean you have to walk all the way up those metaphorical steps and marry someone... When I say this I'm just hoping that you aren't closing your mind to relationships only because you see an inevitable marriage and children at the end. I could have misinterpreted it though.
As for myself I'm 17 and am fairly recently just coming out of that "I don't care if I die alone" phase. I'd actually be interested in a romantic relationship. I'd also like to feel better about myself and make more improvements though before I seriously want to do anything like that. I'm just saying I see it as a possibility in my future.

yes I know how it is since I'm not really that interested in a relationship

You know, it's funny that someone brought this up because just yesterday my mom told me something similar, that people can have a boyfriend or girlfriend without the other things. But I consider them friends and not boy/girlfriends if there's nothing "romantic" happening. I guess I see it in the way of, if a couple behaves "romantically" with each other then why not take it all the way? You don't have to have kids, just get married and spend the rest of your life with that person.

Much sooner than getting married, having a boyfriend or girlfriend is one of the several possible first steps to … ahem, doing something you all probably know better than I do, but I guess I shouldn’t mention in this forum. Considering this and what most parents seem to think in this regard, I’m surprised they don’t strictly forbid their children to have relationships till they’re both adult and completely independent. I’m surprised most people do seem to have a choice at those ages.

I believe that you should get married before you do "That". I'm Christian and it's the Biblical thing to do.

But I know not everyone will agree with me and I'm NOT trying to shove my beliefs down your throat.

According to her posts, I don't think Makayla had any interest in a relationship before we had met.

I honestly don't think not searching will so much prevent it from happening, because if you fall for someone regardless of whether or not you're currently searching for one you will end up in a relationship.

(Assuming the other person is on the same route.)

My point is that I’d expect most parents to stop their children from having relationships for as long as possible, too. With beliefs like yours, they’d have even more reasons to do it. I certainly didn’t seem to have a choice at those ages (we didn’t actually talk about it, but there were too many practical barriers). Most people, however, do seem to have it, and how they can beats me to this day.



Not if you can do nothing at all to approach that person. And if you’re isolated enough, you won’t meet anyone to fall for.