I can't cope with silliness

Post Reply New Topic

I'm soo intolerant of people behaving irrationally and irissponsibly regardless of the many negative results they can produce in a way it is for me very much annoying and I can't understand why even though I have ADHD I still seem to be very calm,co-operative and efficient in the class when being viewed in comparison to some of the other idiotic people in the classroom.
Does anyone else get this feeling as well.

Absolutely, and with me it gets even more complicated.

I'm a stickler for rules regulations and laws, but have a fierce internal conflict if I find these don't make sense, don't reflect what is best for society or a certain group, or if they make sense but the majority disregard them.

I also have the complex issue of being married to a woman with CP who gets around in a wheelchair.
That's where the difficulty for me starts - for whatever reason, but lets say it's my Aspie nature - I absolutely obsess about legitimate use of disabled parking spaces.
If I come across someone illegally parked in a disabled parking space I have to report them, stick a note on their car, or alert them to the fact that - they need a mobility parking authority to legitimately use these spaces, and that there is currently a fine of close to $500 for parking in disabled parking without a permit - even if you are still in the vehicle.
For me this also puts me into high anxiety mode. I worry that I may cause an altercation and end up in a fight, be seen by someone putting a note on a car, only to find someone seeks vengeance by "keying" my car, or some other thing may happen.
Yet if I don't take action, I worry that I will let someone think it is okay to park in these spaces, and risk them continuing a pattern of behaviour that could effect me and my wife directly, when we need a space but find it being used illegally.

I also get frustrated when I see cops J walking, failing to indicate or otherwise not following road rules when driving - because I feel they should be leading by example.

So you're not alone in worrying about stuff others just disregard or don't care about.
It could be an Aspie thing, it could just be part of your character, but you're not alone and you're in good company.
If it wasn't for people like you and me we'd all descend into anarchy!

Thank you
I believe we have a systematic code of rules and laws in order to insue the beast possible conditions for the majority of the population.
Therefore social injustice makes me very mad indeed I'm still at school obviously and this can cause issues with teachers.my school past is a colourful as a rainbow and I'm not proud of it either but I know the thing in there are an injustice to me and although I am not innocent in most cases I am certainly not a fire starter (that's metaphoric) I am just an unlucky belligerent.
This of course makes me again very cross that my future is marked by a previous school who as they couldn't understand my Asperger's or my ADHD I payed the price because of it this makes me very mad and it always will.

I totally understand.
In school I struggled, not just with subjects that didn't make sense to me, but if the class was rowdy, or if the teacher could not connect with me.
In maths class I would just zone out, and sit at the back of the room, sometimes doodling, sometimes just daydreaming or talking to the guy sitting next to me.
In this world whether you are on the spectrum or not, some people will "get you" and some people won't, and of course some people will just bother you and get to you for no other reason than the way they make you feel - the vibes they give out.
The only reliable thing I can think of that helps is try to work with your strengths, accept your weaknesses, and don't try to correct or address your weaknesses unless or until you have someone supportive and understanding to help you.

Those on the spectrum are known to have a very strong moral compass and sense of justice, as well as intolerance for those who's behaviour does not meet our standards.
We are also known to be extremely loyal, which can cause conflict when someone we care about shows that they are not capable of maintaining our lofty standards.

This is something that has taken me most of my life to figure out and accept; no one is perfect, everyone has to compromise on some level, and you can't make others behave the way you would prefer.
Unfortunately though I appear and have been told I am wise, it has come at a crippling cost, and the lessons learned have been difficult and hard learned.
I am only now starting to understand what "developmental delay" really means; for me it means to some extent I am less emotionally mature than I would otherwise be, had difficulty coping with injustice, and am slow to forgive those who wrong me.
Some would say that is actually more of a benefit than an impediment, but we are who we are, and we need to learn to accept ourselves, which isn't as easy as it sounds.
At least on WP we're essentially all friends, and can relate as we know what it feels like to be the odd one out.