How do I deal with being blocked on Social media?

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I'm really hurt. On another site someone blocked me when I asked them for advice about a school problem. I was friends with this person for a year, I use to help them with their questions. When I needed help they wouldn't respond to my private messages and blocked me. I wanted to know what I did wrong.
I then posted a question on the site asking how I should deal with being blocked in about five times in different ways because no one responded. Four questions were reported and I then asked why are my posts been reported and that post got reported too. People kept saying I was stalking and a troll. I received a notification that said I violated the sites terms and conditions. I am now very upset. I've had this problem for a week and been very afraid to tell my parents about it, even though they kept asking me what was wrong and bothering me about it for the past few days.
How do I deal with this. I am really hurting and crying all the time. I have autism and feel like no one understands.

I have no clue why people do things they way they do and I surely don't understand why Social Media sites come up with the arbitrary rules they do.

I posted a music video to Facebook over the Holidays that I found on Youtube and Facebook pulled it, claiming it was some sort of copyright violation. Hey, I don't know if it was or not, all I know is I found it on Youtube and it has apparently been there for years. What-ever.

Don't sweat what other people say on the Internet. I know when you're focused on your screen, it seems like it takes up the whole world and when somebody is nasty to you, it really feels in your face and personal, but keep in mind that when people walk away from their screens, they forget all about whatever they just said. They're not thinking about you, because sadly, they don't even think of those words they read online as representing real people.

Sorry to hear someone you thought was your friend turned out to be such a jerk, but that's not your fault, either. Fortunately, folks here are usually much nicer than that.

I have autism, too and I hate to be the one to tell you this, but most "normal" people don't understand. On the upside, most of the people here on Wrong Planet, DO understand, 'cause we encounter the same stuff all the time. Welcome aboard!

I'm a 45 year old woman, no diagnosis of autism, and I have also had some really hurtful experiences on the internet. Willard is right in what he says. It is still horrible though, and I became very disillusioned about people, especially when people I had trusted and considered friends turned on me. I found it helpful to remember that these people weren't responding to me, they didn't know me at all. It was their own nastiness and small-mindedness which came through in what they said to me. I am not the person they were projecting all that stuff onto. I no longer post where those people are.

You say that your parents have noticed that you're upset about this. My son is autistic - he's 12 so a bit younger than you - but there have been times when he's been upset about something that's happened, and when he's confided in me and we've been able to talk about it, he's said that it helped. If your parents are caring and supportive, then try to tell them what's happening, and how it has affected you.

Please remember, other people's nastiness is their problem.

It is a rule on almost every sort of forum that you should only post something once, unless it's been years and you can't find the old post/nobody remembers the question. You are expected to know this rule, so if you don't follow it, people will assume that you are a troll (being a jerk on purpose).

It's not really a rule, but it is also widely known that there are a lot of rude/mean people on the Internet, and their victims are supposed to just forget the problem and get on with their lives if they can't solve the problem privately (like you tried to do). So, when you posted about how to deal with your problem, people probably expected you to just get over it, and didn't take you seriously. Most people don't ask for that kind of help most places online. Or maybe they didn't have an answer to your question. This is a common reason for having your posts ignored, and it's another reason we are not supposed to post the same thing multiple times.

I don't know how you can deal with this. Just try to remember in the future that there are certain unspoken social rules online just like in real life, and there's not much you can do but learn if you don't know them, so maybe try to forget about it/not take it so seriously. I don't know about your friend, but the other people were probably not trying to hurt you. Personally, I don't even try to participate on mainstream forums/social media anymore because of stuff like this. They have too many expectations about how people should communicate. You're not the first innocent person who's been considered a troll.