How do you guys make friends other than school?

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If you've managed to make friends from different schools? How have you done it? I'd definitely like to know...

I mean in real-life too, and not just on the internet. Meeting and making friends who are not online, and don't go to the same school as you...

I would suggest joining a club outside of school in your field of interest, or joining a youth/social group for your age group. That way you can make friends with other people in your age group, who may or may not be interested in what you are. I am 14 turning 15 in August and I am part of a Martial Arts club, and I have a few friends who I enjoy talking to and spending time with. Hope this helps!! !

i don't know about actual friends but i made some acquaintances when i used to take aikido for a few years, back in elementary/jr.high. i have also met some people through facebook events.

i never made a singe friend until i was 22
first due to bullying., then people ignored me and i felt very isolated. my first friend was when i was 22
i met him thru work. he loves guns, so do i. we did some crazy sh** in the desert together. i was later bed man in his wedding.

my 2nd friend i met at a charity activity. habitat for humanity back in '10 i was out of work so i went to volunteer for HFH every day. about 3 months in i met my 2nd friend. we also connected over guns but later anime, cartoons, airsoft and how we're both sort of psycho. we do alot more together than with my first friend, mostly because he doesn't have as much time on his hands anymore,. he's like 4 years older than me but he's got a wife now (1 yr) and two babies to take care of.

i'd like more friends but have troubling find friends. i'm not in high school or elementary anymore, meeting new people is hard.

I joined a state-wide union rugby club called Rugby Oregon, and I have friends from all over the state now. Just putting yourself out there is the key to making friends outside of your school.

your in sped ed, aren't you? yeah, i dont exactly want to talk to most of those kids there either. however i have a piece of advice that will help a ton: some kids get sent to sped for having drug issues now, id highly recommend getting buddy buddy with the very slow moving kid who's happy all the time and has bloodshot eyes but seems either wise normal and see if he can get you into any parties. trust me when i say it will pay off big time.

That's sarcasm, right? Because doesn't seem like it would make for good friends

nowadays i don't.

I have some friends from church and also I've made a few friends at the music camp I go to every year

its essentaly a way to find the person who isnt severly mentally ill. chances are if hes on drugs thats why he was sent there, truth be told my suggestion would probably be not to make freinds there(there being sped ed). try not to get to involved, if someone says hi to you say high back and dont be too weird but dont exspect to make freinds with people like that.frankly its the only way you have even a remote chance of having a life at one of those places, honestly after summer ends im gonna have my last simester at sped and then i get to go back and im pretty scared anticipating it. you really dont want to asociate with those people to much. they just arent right in the head. so basicly if you really need to that would be the way to go but really my advice is if your in the situation im guessing your in dont make freinds.

I met some kids from another school from going to Friday Night Magic tournaments (Magic the Gathering card game) at the comic book store.

i've made a few good chums on this very site.
you know who you are.

but how do you talk to them when youve lost all sense of feeling in your tongue?

the speach language people at my school always keep trying to make me make freinds or talk to the kids at my school but honestly they all have much more serious issues and the fact of the matter is there kinda scary and i dont have a lot in common with them (a lot of conversations are about the f****d up s**t they do or did or about how the staff are intentionally trying to f**k them over or other weird s**t like that and im one of the very few people at that school(im just assuming there are others but so far i have not met them) who wasnt kicked out of there last school.). no one else even tries to do that because they just know that it isnt going to happen. yesterday i had to call together a metting because this kid has been repeatedly flipping the f**k out on me for no aperent reason and threatining my saftey (he called me a ret*d and threatened to gouge my eyes out, i used to have some sympathy/pitty or at least be able to laugh at the kid but this was the finnal f****n straw, the week before he threatened to s**t on my desk, hed been doing s**t like this all of last year) and even though he apologized and all shortly afterwards and i stood up very strongly formyself (i told h9im if he ever tried to actually attack me that i would retaliate.)i had an emotional breakdown which is VERY VERY VERY rare for me (it never happens) i got myself kicked out of class went outside and started crying. sometimes ill tell my freinds these types of stories via facebook and i kinda get to laugh at these kids/pass judgment about them behind there backs. sometimes ill make jokes at there exspense in front of them and they wont even get it because they just arent that bright, sometimes the teachers wont get it either but thats ussually because there off in the corner dealing with young timmys very diffrent super special funtime issues (most of the kids at my school have serious emotional and behavioral issues or are just generally not right in the head). i dont even see my clasmates as my equals even, sometimes i feel sorry for them but thats about as far as it goes. i went to the big highschool this summer for summer school and i really liked it and felt like i was part of the comunity rather then a scared outsider in an insane assylum. my parents and my entire iep team are trying really hard to help me get back to regular school and pretty much everyone agrees its whats soccially aproprite for me. i have lots of freinds but there all people i know from middle school (i was a mess in middle school by the way so understand that it really does have quite a bit to do with who im around), i used to have two freinds at my last school but they turned out to have a lot more issues then i realized and they always followed there lives by a very specific stereotype of what a person with aspergers was supposed to be like and i never liked that about them and it kinda just all fell apart.

thankfully i think im going to be able to convince her (the curent one, the last one thought everyone was a special little snowflke and had her head so far up her ass that it came all the way around) to talk more about my freinds and family and how i could better make freinds in the outside world then talk about whats etmeditly in front of me. i pretended to be freinds with one of the kids there for a while but we never talked and i dont think anyone bought it. frankly its hard to be there on a day to day basis and it means that i basicly have no social life, but i know that soon enough ill be going back and that makes it easier to deal with. if i dont get to go back then ill probably drop out and do night colledge at some latter point. however it currently seems very unlikely that i wont be going back. but if i wont ill probably drop out, frankly i think its just not worth it and life is to short. everyday i go there is a painfull and depressing, theres only one other kid whos kinda like me (i say that meaning hes the one other person whos not visably mentally ill, id never talk to him outside of school and im pretty sure hes not aspie)and he just makes jokes at others expense the entire period because he says its the only way he wont get depressed. i wish i had a girlfreind or freinds there, ive tried ocasionally but it never has happened and ive never felt comfertable actually going out with one of them and am completly afraid of bringing one of these kids to my house. ive tried both doing drugs and killing both once, they where seaprete events but both i only did once and never again, sometimes i laugh at his jokes, sometimes its the only thing that makes me able to get through the day. hes only in one or two of my classes though. i also write my story which is a bout a man trapped in an insane assylum, its not really supposed to be about my experiances but i guess it gives me a way to express what im feeling. i hate my school, i dont hate it as much as my last school (the kids there where ven more f****d up, met some real live neo nazis at that one, also a kid who thought there where aliens in his head or something and talked about finding people on the train who were in sandm ware on the train and brutally assulting them) but i do hate it and once leave im never gonna come back, nor will i go to anyone theres graduation and i sure as f**k am not going to talk to them latter in life, if one of those kids finds me on facebook in ten or twentty years i dont want to talk to them, it would be akward beyond beleif and id rather pretend they didnt exist, i think that if there where middle school reunions id go to one of those, i dought ill even get invited to any highschool reunions at the highschools ive been at, i think they will know that i dont want to come. i ended up at these schools because when i was in middle school i really really hated myself so when we tried to get an outplacment the iep team and all the schools i visited deicded that the issue was less aspergers and more that i hated myself so i wound up at a school for kids with emotional issues. ive been trying to get out ever since and sites like this have definatly helped me realise that aspergers inst like real autism or an illness or anything and its not something thats deeply wrong with me that needs to be cured. i still hate myself sometimes and am working through those feelings but its not as bad as it used to be and ive also started to feel some pride ocasionally.