Life, in general

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Hey, guys. I have some things that I need to get off my chest.

First, I feel that I'm not as nice as I thought I was. I have good qualities about myself, but I've done some bad things in my life, and I feel really bad about them. I've unfriended people on Facebook if they weren't nice to me, or they never talked to me. I worry that those people that I've unfriended on Facebook will see me in the future, and think " that guy is an as*hole!!" I don't want other people to think of me as a mean person.

Additionally, I hated the person that I became in my junior year of high school. It was a weird, awkward phase for me, and I didn't like it at all. It seemed like I became a slightly meaner person during lunch of my junior year; I felt weird around my friends, as though I was an outcast(even though my friends liked me, and didn't have a problem with my presence). I couldn't talk to people very well during that time.

Also, there is this girl that I used to be friends with, around my sophomore year. We had a lot in common, and it looked like that we were going to be really good friends. However, things went downhill. This girl became distant, and started to act oddly. To be fair, I was slightly annoying, but I was unaware of things, and kind of naive. In fact, I was chatting her on Facebook, and this girl blocked me when I was chatting her. I didn't really do anything wrong, and I didn't say anything mean. This girl even said that I was annoying, and a "creep". I haven't talked to her in a year, but I still think about her sometimes.

Overall, has anyone been in the same dilemma for me? Any advice for what I should do?

The examples you gave really don't sound like examples of someone being mean or being a bad person.Not at all. They just sound like a normal person's teenage years. Not all friendships last.

Okay, the last bit sounds like what would happen to someone socially unaware or someone with ASD. We can come off as annoying and creepy very easily. You did nothing intentionally wrong so it doesn't make you a bad person. My advice: ask an NT you trust, preferably a female, mum or sister, for example, to read your conversation history with that girl and see if they can identify anything you said that may have been socially inappropriate. That way if you did make a mistake you can try to avoid making the same one in the future.

I concur. I don't really think you did anything wrong. Life is crazy and confusing and chaotic and no one really knows what the heck they're doing. Also, very few people will actually care if you're an as*hole. Everyone is, from a certain point of view. We're all just trying to figure out what to do, just as you are.